m2s Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Did it work out? If yes, how did you get that trust back? If no, why not? Just interested ........
january2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Did it work out? No If no, why not? It coloured the remainder of the relationship, even though we managed to stay together for a good while. That is, we both second guessed ourselves too much because I never quite trusted him again and he always wondered, "What If?". Ultimately, he went back to her.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Yea I did.. He kept cheating on me.. I should have known because he did the same in his past relationships.. I don't beleive once a cheater always a cheater as I was a cheater once upon a time in a past relationship and never have done it again in my relationships. Of course I ended up divorcingthe cheater. So in the end it didn't work out. I honestly could not get the trust back I couldn't trust him no matter how hard I tried. It just lead to me hating him everyday and bad fighting. Thats just me though.. I am much happier with out him and honestly thank god to be rid of him. Yes things can be fixed with a cheater. All relationships are hard work after cheating it makes things SO much harder. I couldn't do it dosen't mean someone else couldn't or shouldn't. Hope this helps..
Don_da_Ho Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Yep. You never get the trust back. If they cheat on you, they're really not that into you. Besides a leopard never changes his/her spots. She cheated again a few months later. Don't do it.
Fern Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I took him back after he cheated - several times at the start. Eventually he stopped cheating and I started to trust him again. For about 4 years he was faithful. Then I found texts from one of his co-workers (she was engaged to the father of her child at the time) on his phone about 5 months ago. He was at it again. He begged me to stay. I said I'd try again - on the promise we work on stuff. He agreed. I stayed 2 more weeks - he made ZERO effort. We had a fight - I packed my bags and I left. I discovered one week later he was still seeing his co-worker and they were 'in love'.
aerogurl87 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 My ex took me back and it worked for 5 months... sort of. We broke up about 3 times in those 5 months because he was emotionally abusive and I would have rather walked and let him find someone else than sit there and suffer through all his emotional infidelity and abuse. Finally at 5 months, he left me for someone else and I'm happy he did. Had he not done that I probably would've never met the amazing man who is my boyfriend now.
Lemontang Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I'll say no from my experience. I did take her back the 1st time but this only resulted on the remainder of the relationship sitting on life support. Needless to say she did it again and again with randoms. It wasn't pretty http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t253971/ But some stories do end with a silver lining. I wouldn't have met the girl I'm with now who shares the same values and expectations of people as me.
melenkurion Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I suppose I did. We were living together and he never moved out, we "worked things out". I am not sure how I got the trust back, I somehow did. He would never, ever discuss the matter so I did it all on my own. It was about five years ago. We ended up getting "married" about three years after. He ended up cheating again five years down the line. Perhaps other times, for all I know. I have to be honest, I regret not ending it then.
Fern Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I suppose I did. We were living together and he never moved out, we "worked things out". I am not sure how I got the trust back, I somehow did. He would never, ever discuss the matter so I did it all on my own. It was about five years ago. We ended up getting "married" about three years after. He ended up cheating again five years down the line. Perhaps other times, for all I know. I have to be honest, I regret not ending it then. Snap. I'd have saved myself a lot of heartache. The relationship we had between the instances of cheating wasn't even all that good.
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