Milltown Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I'm new to this whole "dating game" thing. I have had a girlfriend before but it happened in a very strange and unorthodox way. We never really "dated" persay it just happened. Fastforward to now I'm now dating this girl I met at my college. We had class together and we hung out with each other after class for 2 hours at least (two times a week). We just clicked with each other. From the moment we started talking to each other conversations seemed effortless. Now before we started dating we have been just hanging with each other for around 3 months. I very stupidly... (according to most of you dating experts) said "i like you" one day so she asked me if I'd like to go on a date. Now a week before our date she told me to assume that she is seeing other people, she made it known that she is a multi dater. Then the next day I saw her at school she said that she liked me a lot.... She also made it known her longest relationship was 5 dates. She also implied that she never dated anybody she really liked and from what I can gather she is looking for somebody to start a long term relationship with now. This girl has said to me that albeit on our first date that she feels the "lines in our relationship are blurred". After 4 dates we've grown even closer. All of our dates have lasted at least 5 hours (some have even lasted 10 hours) and we're never bored. Everything feels like a crazy adventure. I know If I'm to slow I could possibly lose an amazing girl as she has told me she is multi-dating. Is this the right time to ask her to be my girlfriend? Also how is this usually done?
january2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Ask her what she thinks about the two of you dating exclusively. It's the right time, if you feel it's the right time. Doesn't mean that she'll agree, but you won't know that until you ask her.
Author Milltown Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 now that I think about it is it even a good thing to ask a girl if she'd be your girlfriend?
january2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 There's a saying, "you can never ask the wrong question, to the right person." But unless you ask the question in the first place, you're not going to know whether she's the right person or not.
DellPickle Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 now that I think about it is it even a good thing to ask a girl if she'd be your girlfriend? Im not the fan of asking someone to be my girlfriend, its a little too much middle/high school for me... I always put it as January put it, "what do you think about us being exclusive" or some form of that question
Author Milltown Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 I was just thinking of wording it "what do you think about going steady?" or "what do you think about making this official". Like I said things are blurry, we have said as much to each other.
DellPickle Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I was just thinking of wording it "what do you think about going steady?" or "what do you think about making this official". Like I said things are blurry, we have said as much to each other. I think its better than just asking her to be your girlfriend...I personally dont like them as much as the "what do you think about us exclusively dating". I like the going steady wording better than the making offical one. But I am far from a dating guru. Another way of wording it might be "INSERT NAME, I am not really interested in seeing anyone else, how do you feel about that?"
Author Milltown Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 I think its better than just asking her to be your girlfriend...I personally dont like them as much as the "what do you think about us exclusively dating". I like the going steady wording better than the making offical one. But I am far from a dating guru. Another way of wording it might be "INSERT NAME, I am not really interested in seeing anyone else, how do you feel about that?" How should I bring this up to her? Go on a nice walk where nobody is around?
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