dystopiancitizen Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 (edited) I have a wonderful relationship with the most amazing man I have ever know. We have been dating for five years. I am 18 and he is 19... Our parents have been through divorces,my sisters have both gotten married, babies have been born (not not us), and we have been through a few funerals. We have shared holidays,churches,birthdays,anniversaries.... We have recently been discussing how there is no point in us still dating unless we are positive that we view each other as potential spouses. But how young is too young? We have a very realistic perspective of finances and a mature comprehension of commitment and love. And even though we are happy where we are in our relationship, we think it would be reasonable to be married the summer before our senior year in college? That would be right before our 8 year anniversary. I guess I am just curious what the general populous thinks? And because we have grown up in broken homes we have already made he decision that if we did get married divorce would NOT be an option. That is just our personal choice. Thank you all for any helpful advice, whether personal or financial. Edited December 19, 2010 by dystopiancitizen
that girl Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I don't see any reason why you would get married before graduating college. I could see getting engaged during college, but holding off the marriage until after college finished (at least until you are both 22+). You should have a pretty clear idea of what your adult life will be like before you get married. Sure, plans can change, but a lot more changes between junior year in college and age 23 than between 22 and 24. I think any couple planning on getting married should have premarital counselling. Many religious faiths offer this as part of the wedding package, otherwise you could save up a few hundred dollars and hire a counsellor to meet with you for a few sessions. Every couple I know has gotten something out of premarital counselling, even if they were 28 and had been together since they were 14. But personally I think you should push the wedding until your 10th anniversary. 23/24 is considerably more grown up than 20/21. You would have more time to save for a wedding and/or a downpayment. Plus, statistically, the earlier you get married (up to age 25), the less likely the marriage is to work. I know people who got married at 23 or 24 and it was the right decision for them. I've never personally seen 20 or 21 work out.
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