OOReeee Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 It's been 3 months since I left all I had and moved to a new city, and a little over a month since I met and started a very intense relationship with a girl. Because I don't know that many people here, I became socially dependent of her. I was always a person who believed in space and in bf and gf hanging out with their friends, but now I just became this weird, obsessed, jealous being because I don't have the same social tools she does, I am constantly afraid that when she is not with me she is out with her friends hitting on other guys. I feel like I need to be with her almost all the time because I really don't have anyone else. This is bad, real bad because it makes the times that I am not with her unbearable. I understand how lame/pathetic/sad that sounds but I can't help it. Has that happen to anyone else? I don't know what to think anymore.
january2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 The intensity of the relationship may be a factor. It sounds like you are both socially and emotionally very invested in this girl. And as you are now beginning to realise, it's not a healthy situation to be in. You probably know that you need to make your own friends. By your own words, while you may not have the same social tools as your girlfriend, somehow you found her. And if you can find her and get together, you can find and make other friends. I suggest starting out with finding new hobbies or taking up old ones but in the new location - look into local clubs and societies. Try the Meetup website for your area. Try volunteering, going to the gym. As you may have realised you need to start building a life of your own so that you are less dependent on your girlfriend and less inclined to worry about what she's up to when she's not with you - because you'll be having too much fun yourself.
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