victor alexis Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Ok, so i met this girl at work last semester. we didnt have any kind of connection beyond the normal coworker relationship and that was fine...well until this semester. She now works in a different area than i do and i didnt see her since the last semester until i ran into her at work. she said that it gets slow in the evenings and that i should come visit her...so i did. We began chatting here and there at work and then through online messages. I then asked her if she would like to out to dinner one night, she said it sounded good and we went. after dinner we went back to her place and watched tv on the couch for awhile. I left without making any sort of move because i wasnt sure what this circumstance really was. (was it a date or did she just assume it as friends) After another week of talking and messaging she said that she was getting tired of studying for finals (it was sunday night before finals week), so i invited her to play games with me and some other friends at their apartment. Surprisingly, she agreed to come even though shes a hardcore studier and school is her 1st priority. I picked her up and we played games until about 1am when i ended up taking her home. The next day she began texting me ALOT more than anyone else does...enough for me to have to eventually tell her that i might have to extend my text messaging plan haha. most of the texts were normally about little things and usually came out of nowhere like "man i'm tired of studying, what are you up to?" and so on. she sent me over 100 texts within 4 hours when we were both supposed to be studying (we both had finals the next morning). I wouldn't think she would take the time to do this if there wasn't some sort of interest right? Well after finals week was over she said she was heading back home for break. so i asked if she wanted to do something before she left. she told me that i could come over after she got off work at 11pm the night before she left. I told her i would pick up a bottle of wine and be there when she got off of work. we had a few drinks and sat on the couch watching a movie. she began to get tired and covered up with a blanket while laying her head up against me. So i put my arm around her. well the night ended at 3am with her needing to go to bed because she had to pack up and leave the next day. now im stuck with 2 weeks wondering if she indeed likes me in "that way" or if she is just casting me as a friend. (she is the overly friendly type). Many of you may say "well duh" but the thing is, i haven't really made a move to express what i want out of this and now with her being gone for an extended period i feel like iv'e lost what momentum i had. However, i also didn't feel that making a gesture right before she was going out of town was the right thing to do either. So, if anyone read this (thank you), what do you think my next move should be when she gets back? Thanks.
qinboxmail Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Ok, so i met this girl at work last semester. we didnt have any kind of connection beyond the normal coworker relationship and that was fine...well until this semester. She now works in a different area than i do and i didnt see her since the last semester until i ran into her at work. she said that it gets slow in the evenings and that i should come visit her...so i did. We began chatting here and there at work and then through online messages. I then asked her if she would like to out to dinner one night, she said it sounded good and we went. after dinner we went back to her place and watched tv on the couch for awhile. I left without making any sort of move because i wasnt sure what this circumstance really was. (was it a date or did she just assume it as friends) After another week of talking and messaging she said that she was getting tired of studying for finals (it was sunday night before finals week), so i invited her to play games with me and some other friends at their apartment. Surprisingly, she agreed to come even though shes a hardcore studier and school is her 1st priority. I picked her up and we played games until about 1am when i ended up taking her home. The next day she began texting me ALOT more than anyone else does...enough for me to have to eventually tell her that i might have to extend my text messaging plan haha. most of the texts were normally about little things and usually came out of nowhere like "man i'm tired of studying, what are you up to?" and so on. she sent me over 100 texts within 4 hours when we were both supposed to be studying (we both had finals the next morning). I wouldn't think she would take the time to do this if there wasn't some sort of interest right? Well after finals week was over she said she was heading back home for break. so i asked if she wanted to do something before she left. she told me that i could come over after she got off work at 11pm the night before she left. I told her i would pick up a bottle of wine and be there when she got off of work. we had a few drinks and sat on the couch watching a movie. she began to get tired and covered up with a blanket while laying her head up against me. So i put my arm around her. well the night ended at 3am with her needing to go to bed because she had to pack up and leave the next day. now im stuck with 2 weeks wondering if she indeed likes me in "that way" or if she is just casting me as a friend. (she is the overly friendly type). Many of you may say "well duh" but the thing is, i haven't really made a move to express what i want out of this and now with her being gone for an extended period i feel like iv'e lost what momentum i had. However, i also didn't feel that making a gesture right before she was going out of town was the right thing to do either. So, if anyone read this (thank you), what do you think my next move should be when she gets back? Thanks. Just do it.
january2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 You could try the direct method. When she next has her head on your shoulder, lift her chin up, look into her eyes, then at her mouth and then kiss her. It's risky, but sometimes, these things require a more obvious move from one party to make it clear that there's interest there. Good luck to you.
DuskCrush Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 2 weeks is no kind of time. Do you like her? Seems like she likes you but is waiting on you to take it to the next level. When she returns --call her and ask her out on a date (say do you want to go on a date with me...that way you will know how she sees you. No guts. No glory) and then kiss her at the end of the night.
sammyd Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Awww, i'm so excited for you!! She sounds really interested, and it will be good to see if after these 2 weeks if you both still feel the same. If you do, i'd say go for it! Ask her on a date:) Good luck!
Author victor alexis Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 thanks for the positive feedback. and yes, i do like her, more than i thought apparently due to the fact im worrying about it so much haha. i like the idea of the date. i think this is the direction im going to go. It'll be a good way to go back to my favorite restaurant that i havent been to in ages
Author victor alexis Posted December 21, 2010 Author Posted December 21, 2010 Well, we've been keeping in touch everyday so far online with messages back and forth, mostly talking about our final grades, holiday plans, and just what we are doing during the day in general. I'll take this as a good sign
ConflictedGuy27 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 dude... just kiss her already. she likes you AT THE MOMENT; that could change. you need to kiss her; stat! oh, & one other thing (a piece of advice from one of my platonic female advisors): "any girl who brings you home after it's too late for dinner is DTF (down to f*ck)" truer words were never spoken. chicks will test you like that. it's their way of boosting the odds that you'll make that move.
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