NC - I am moving on

[amythan]

Hi,

 

It is very weird but I am feeling relieved. After months struggling with this situation I decided that a clear cut was the way to go.

 

We have being going out from April and in September he started to pull away. Then he was back and wanted to spend time with me. We dated again but his level of contact was inconsistent and i felt that i was beating a dead horse. He is still saying that he wanted to see me but I couldn't take it anymore. At the beginning felt that the right thing is being friends but now i realize that we are not friends. I have friends and he is not my friend, he is the guy I am in love with.

 

I sent him an email explaining my feelings and he didn't reply. I went no contact and despite how hard it is I am feeling that it is the only thing which can make me move on. Hope he understands but I am not ready to be friends.

 

I know he has feelings for me and he repeats me non stop that I am his friend. But we are not friends ! Friends call each other, do not sleep together and care about each other feelings. So I am not feeling I am losing a friend. I am losing way more than that so I decide to do not talk to him again.

 

I am doing the right thing, right ? Am I being childish ?

[DuskCrush]

It sounds like a friends-with-benefit situation.

You want more and he doesn't.

Is that what's going on?

 

If so, then yes you are doing the right thing

and should not be his friend.

[amythan]

It is something like that but we were really dating. He was not willing to commit with me despite his feelings but he never let me go either. I know he thinks he cares about me but this is not what i want and sticking around will be me feel miserable.

 

I find NC a bit childish but if we remain friends I will always look for signs and he is very good confusing me. He will play again the "I would like to be with you now" line and everything will start again ..