screwball Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I met a girl online, chatted for a couple weeks, and finally met up last weekend to spend the day together hiking. The hike was great and she seems interested in me, but she didn't hint at getting together again. Since the hike, we had been chatting/emailing online most of the week with great conversation that often ends up flirtatious. I've kept things light, funny, and casual without revealing too much information about myself and am always the one to end the conversation first. This is my last weekend in town before heading home for the holidays for a couple weeks, so when conversation turned to our weekend plans, I asked her out for tonight. She couldn't make it due to other plans (which were valid), but didn't offer any other days so I left it at that and carried on with the conversation. I think the girl has a lot of great potential with one obvious red flag. Am I thinking into this too much? I don't want to blow it by being over eager, but it seems a little weird to me.
Jeff M Stevens Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I met a girl online, chatted for a couple weeks, and finally met up last weekend to spend the day together hiking. The hike was great and she seems interested in me, but she didn't hint at getting together again. It's your job to bring it up again. All you want to make sure of is that she is laughing and touches you at least once, even if its just to brush your arm Since the hike, we had been chatting/emailing online most of the week with great conversation that often ends up flirtatious. I've kept things light, funny, and casual without revealing too much information about myself and am always the one to end the conversation first. Good to keep it light funny and casual but its TOO MUCH CONTACT..she's a stranger. You need to wait 5-9 days between dates and then contact her to ASK HER OUT. Repeat this for at least 10 dates as long as she's giving you positive signals like having more and more fun, throwing compliments at you and kissing you. This is my last weekend in town before heading home for the holidays for a couple weeks, so when conversation turned to our weekend plans, I asked her out for tonight. MISTAKE...You didn't give her enough notice. Give them at least 3-4 days because you will never know if she blew you off because she wasn't interested or if you just didn't give her enough time She couldn't make it due to other plans (which were valid), but didn't offer any other days so I left it at that and carried on with the conversation.Kind of bad that you didn't get a counter offer but she is probably feeling disrespected since you didn't give her a proper amount of time. Wait until you come back and then ask her out again, giving her proper time. Also, don't take her out on a Friday or Saturday until she asks you to. You want to see if she's interested enough to ask for the weekends and also you want to be a challenge to her. I think the girl has a lot of great potential with one obvious red flag. Am I thinking into this too much? I don't want to blow it by being over eager, but it seems a little weird to me. You have too much contact with her right now..just back off until you get back, ask her out for a weekday and then try to kiss her at the end of the date, if she turns her head or doesn't kiss you, toss the #. If she does kiss you, rinse and repeat until you get to 10 dates Good luck man
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