overseas2004 Posted March 15, 2004 Posted March 15, 2004 Here is a good question. How would you feel about a guy who did this. I have this girlfriend and she met this guy a few weeks ago. They have been on two dates and she told me that she thinks he is really really nice and cute but that there is just no spark between them. On Saturday night she took me out with him and one of his friends. The whole night she was pretty quiet and I ended up talking her date and his friend. At the end of the night she asked him to drive me home. When we pulled up in front of my apartment he kissed me on my lips. I stopped him and said "you are dating my friend". He just looked at me and said "it is obvious to me and to you and to everyone else that your friend is not interested in me and I don't want to waste time with people who are not interested in me. So can I have your phone number or not? Because you are really beautiful and I would like to get to know you better". So I gave him my number. The next day my girlfriend called me in the morning. She asked me if he had made a pass at me and I told her that he did. She told me she knew it. And she sounded like she was not happy. But then she said "well why don't you date him". And I said "we will see". Later she called him and asked him to explain to her what happened. He told her that "he felt on the two dates that they were on that she was not interested and that he liked me and wanted to take me out". So he was honest with her too. My question is "do you guys think that what he did is ok? or low down and nasty? Should I be wary of going out with him? Is there any red flag for anyone in all of this? I am not sure how to call this one.
fadi20 Posted March 15, 2004 Posted March 15, 2004 Be careful, becuase his way is not OK at all. And you made a mistake when you agreed to give him your phone number. This is not the right time to accept his relationship. You have to discuss this matter frankly with your friend and have to clear the cobweb then take a discision based on logic not emotions. Take care.
Togagirl Posted March 15, 2004 Posted March 15, 2004 I would just verify with your friend that it's ok, again. If she's cool with it more power to ya. He was honest with both of you, so he's not trying to be shadey, just maybe he put the cart before the horse, making a pass at you before consulting your friend. It will all work out in the end, not need to worry.
SoleMate Posted March 15, 2004 Posted March 15, 2004 I don't think the friend is really the issue. Sounds like both parties agreed there was no spark. What I don't like about this guy is that his approach was so aggressive and businesslike. If someone had made that kind of remark, after lip kissing me straight out of the blue, I would have felt like just one more item on his agenda. It would be better if he were asking for your approval and acceptance - not curtly telling you what the deal was. Pushy guys turn me off majorly. But, to each her own.
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