Ex gf being hostile/spiteful about giving stuff back after 5 months

[Andymack]

Me and my ex broke up about 5 months ago and since then she has had my stuff. She said that she would give it back to me constantly fro the moment we split and i was texting her about it every week (tbh it was to try and have some contact) and she said that she would get it sorted for me. She has promised to do it on about 10 different occasions and hasn't done it so I went round her house when she wasn't in and saw her sister who i've always got on well with so i could get it, but instead of getting it we caught up about what we were upto and didn't really have time to sort it out.

 

A bit later that night I got a text from my ex saying that her sister had told her that i'd been round and would be back on monday (as i agreed with her sister thats when i would go round again as I would have more time to sort it) and she wouldn't be there but I could go round between 2-4 Sunday to go and get it. She also asked for the TV and DVD player that she gave me when we first started going out. She is blatantly doing this to be spiteful as she already has 2 tvs in the house and has nowhere to put it and the DVD player doesn't even work and she had originally said that she didn't want it back and i could keep them. To me it seems the same as asking for your Xmas and birthday presents back.

 

Why would she be doing this? I've been nothing but nice since the breakup while she's been going from hostile/passive aggressive to nice and now back again. I've read on here that ex gfs do this sometimes but i just wondered if anyone knew why?

 

She also seems to make a big deal out of her being there as i've said i just want my stuff back and was happy to sort while she wasn't there to avoid awkwardness but she said that it wasn't a problem and she would do it and drop it off (which is b******s as she hadn't touched it when i went round) I personally don't want to see her as i've been making decent progress in NC (about 6 weeks now) which is why i went round when she wasn't there.

 

I haven't text back and was thinking of ignoring her and going to see her sister on Monday as i arranged but don't want to get her sister involved so was wondering the best course of action to take.

Edited December 18, 2010 by Andymack