helovesmeyes Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 My boyfriend of two years broke up with me a few months ago because things had been going bad. To make a long story short I didn't appreciate him, argued a lot, and just wasn't loving :-( And once I realized my wrongdoings, became loving, and just overall changed my attitude on life it was too late... he wanted to break up. So for months I tried to win him back to no avail. We would hang out, and things would seem fine, and then I wouldn't hear from him for days. We had numerous talks discussing the breakup and repairing our relationship, but he kept saying that he didn't want the stress and needed time. He said that he didn't want to treat me badly because he was hurt, and needed to be away from me for a while. Ok no problem, and over time I realized my self worth, and that no man was worth chasing no matter how much I loved him. I realized that he had his own issues to work through, and that I needed to let him come around on his own, etc... So I stopped chasing, and let him know that I was moving on, and serious about it etc. Went no contact, and almost immediately he calls to tell me that he loves me, never wanted to break up, can't stop thinking of me, etc. He said that he doesn't want to lose me because he sees how I've changed, and that he just wants to take things slow because he can't handle the stress. He says he really cares about me. So I give in a little, and we hang out a few times and everything is wonderful. He starts chasing ME now and I am a little baffled but I go with it. At first it feels like I am truly over him, but then he does these little cute things that I love and I cannot deny that I am still in love him so I open up more and more. But once I start calling him he backs off a little, nothing major just enough to notice because he had been calling/texting me nonstop for weeks. So I stop calling and he's back pursuing... My question is what the hell is going on? I am not into games, I want a genuine and honest encounter with him. I am not looking for him to be my boyfriend right now, and he's the one who wants to see where things go so why is it that when I show a little interest his decreases his some? Is it just a man thing to want to chase? Should I just let him come to me and not scare him off? Should I just talk to him about it? Oh and he's born aug. 17th, he's a leo if that helps! Help! LOL
Jdw_Icequeen Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Let him continue making the contact..He is the one that left! Yes your going to feel the need to and the urge to contact.. unfortunatly all relationships at some point are some kind of stupid game!! You don't necessarily need to play it either. All you have to do as look at it like an adult. You notice he is backing off when you call then don't call him anymore. Thats what you do when your dating someone right? If they don't seem interested in you then you don't keep calling them. For him it may be a game. I am glad you said you don't want him back right now but its obvious you miss him.. I definetly would not let him lead you on though. Its obvious he hasn't made his intentions clear just wanting to take things slow. You need to think well if this dosen't work out how are you going to feel? Think about yourself and what you truly want before continuing this.. Its probably not what you want to hear but it sounds like you might be walking into a pit of snakes. So just becareful and try to take a good think about all this.. You don't need to end up back at square one with pain.. I truly hope everything works out for you and it will with him or without him. Don't forget that!
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