PatrickS Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 Here goes a long story! Well we basically met in October 2008, we both were just the typical teenagers, getting drunk and all that not. But on christmas eve i asked her out. At first she was a bit of a strange person she was the type of person who didn't care about school about anyone really she just wanted fun. But then we started seeing each other more often starting to every day. I went on a weeks holiday about 2 months into the relationship and thats when we first told each other we loved each other. We started seeing each other every single day and it was amazing for about 6 months, but then i started getting bored and wanted to go clubbing with my friends and i knew i'd hurt her if i told her so i went out with out saying anything and she finds out and we argue, But then we would just get back to being our selves and being really happy again. I have done some really stupid things and also said some horrible things to her and she to me. We spent every day with each other basically for the last 2 years, we even ditched our friends for each other. Shes changed into a wonderful person who wants to do well in life but she recently started to get very very stressed and she had to see the doctors about it. I tried to help i really did, but sometimes i just stressed back to her without thinking about it and we kept on arguing and arguing. It kept being a cycle, one day we'd argue say horrible things and the next we would be amazing and it would keep on happening. We always said we would last forever and have children etc because we loved each other very very very very much. But the other week she stayed round mine on the friday night and it was amazing but on the saturday i had to drop her home at 10am because i had to go to the works christmas due which she insisted she didn't mind me going to. So i text her before i left to tell her i love her and everything but she didn't text back, 4 hours later while i was out she text me saying she was bored etc, sarcastically saying hope your having fun out while im stuck here painting. I can't really remember much else but she said she wants to finish it (i didn't think much of it, i thought we'd be ok the day after because its happened before). That was 2 weeks ago and i have seen her once since then. I begged and begged for the last 2 weeks, she is telling me to leave her alone and i have seen her once in these 2 weeks trying to get her back. I realise this is pathetic and stupid and im only making her more angry. But the other day i text her saying "im just worried that we never will be ok again, if you said now we would be atleast be on good terms or be talking again in 6 months i would leave you alone, ill always care for you thats natural" and she text back saying "We will be on good terms but not now, not when your like this so leave me alone for a while bye" she also said she was happy now. I just don't understand how after 2 years of being so in love and soo close and i mean really close she can do this and just be perfect after a matter of a week? She won't speak to me or pick up the phone i havn't been able to speak to her for days. I want her back and i know i have been stupid by begging her but its so hard. I am determined now to go NC but im just worried she'll get over me. I want her back so please don't say to walk away and its xmas next week and i usually spend it at hers Thank you
Author PatrickS Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 Someone must have something to say i have been NC for the last 2 days now it's hard, i hope in the holidays she will text or ring me. We were so close.
Don_da_Ho Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 the other day i text her saying "im just worried that we never will be ok again, if you said now we would be atleast be on good terms or be talking again in 6 months i would leave you alone, ill always care for you thats natural" and she text back saying "We will be on good terms but not now, not when your like this so leave me alone for a while bye" she also said she was happy now. Well, I am going tell you what you don't want to hear: walk away, Christmas or not. Bro, you've obviously been chasing and stalking her. That has only pushed her even further away. She has made it very clear she wants you to leave her alone. Contrary to what your "intuition" tells you, leaving her alone is your ONLY chance it MIGHT turn around months down the road. Continuing contact will only continue to push her away. She won't forget about you if you leave her alone. Besides, you have no choice. You need to work on yourself and get stronger and healthier.
Author PatrickS Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 i understand, i just don't want to lose her for ever, i am giving her, her space now which i feel good about
Don_da_Ho Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Well, you don't have a choice if you lose her for ever or not. That's up to her. But if you continue contacting her and pressuring her I can assure you that you will push her away for ever. Chill and don't contact her.
Author PatrickS Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 Yeah, i havn't tried speaking to her since friday so ill kep it up untill she contacts me
Banega100 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 swear guy's are such fckin pussies sometimes. Man the fck up dude doesn't your behaviour make you cringe?
Author PatrickS Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 2 years ago i would never of imagined me doing anything like this haha i wasn't the type. But i have left her alone now.
january2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Having spoken to you in the coping chatroom, I think that it's best that you let her be and work on healing yourself. She's decided not to seek professional help for what happened to her and until she does, she's going to continue to push you away. Use the NC time to focus on you. She knows where you are if she is sincere in making it work again, otherwise you need to make a step toward moving on with your life, even if that life is without her.
Don_da_Ho Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Banega100: I was trying to be helpful to the OP .... I get so much grief on here for telling guys they're pussies. PatrickS: so you are a love sick pussy but have left her alone now?
Author PatrickS Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 yeah havn't tried speaking to her since friday
Don_da_Ho Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Good. Best to leave her alone and start working on yourself instead of focusing on her. Don't contact her for christmas either.
Banega100 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Yeah I think i over-reacted tbf, The OP's actually getting alot better than most 'guys' on here...
Banega100 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 (edited) ........... Edited December 20, 2010 by Banega100 screwed up
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