guy.lepage Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 I have a long time friend who I respect very much and have a great rapport with. For a number of reasons, a relationship between us is impossible and I've asked her for NC except if anything serious comes up and she needs my help with it. Instead of respecting my request, about two weeks later my friend makes all kinds of efforts for us to become buddies again. She calls, she's mega sweet, she tells me I'm really important to her, the whole nine yards. I ended up seeing her and she showed up looking hotter than ever. I've known her forever and I know it was totally deliberate. After talking to her like in the old days, I realized I had to go NC again and told her so. She became really upset and reminded me I was so important to her and how she'll keep trying for us to be buddies. My friend has been a really good friend over the years and I really respect her. Except her actions aren't those of a considerate friend right now. Would you agree with my perception?
Author guy.lepage Posted December 18, 2010 Author Posted December 18, 2010 Two words: Restraining order. Ok, but seriously... I could understand how she tried to save the friendship but showing up all decked out deserves a restraining order indeed!
Str8noChaser Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 I have a long time friend who I respect very much That respect is one way. She doesn't respect you since you allow her back in time and time again. Would you agree with my perception? Well she is only doing what you allow her to do. She can call you 24/7 365, You can't control her. What you can control is whether or not you answer the phone. So, rather than focus on whether or not your perception is right and if everyone agrees that she is inconsiderate or not, why don't you stop taking her call. Period. Sounds like you are emotionally involved with her and she knows which buttons to push.
paleblue Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 I think you are just as much to blame. You're playing with her just as much as she is playing with you. You tell her dont contact me, unless it serious? thats bull. Then you end up meeting her anyways. Which is bull. There is more to the story than you are telling. Why cant you be friends with her?
Author guy.lepage Posted December 18, 2010 Author Posted December 18, 2010 I think you are just as much to blame. You're playing with her just as much as she is playing with you. You tell her dont contact me, unless it serious? thats bull. Then you end up meeting her anyways. Which is bull. There is more to the story than you are telling. Why cant you be friends with her? I can't be friends with her because I have feelings for her and her mind playing is driving me insane...
Str8noChaser Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 I can't be friends with her because I have feelings for her and her mind playing is driving me insane... Then you came here asking the wrong question. What you really want to know is how to emotionally break contact with someone that you have feelings for and be strong at NC yourself. Hope you figure that out, sounds like she has you wrapped around her fingers.
Madgick1 Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 No contact is your boundary. Since you can't respect it, why should she. Don't respond, don't show up, don't read her texts. Block her email, phone number, etc... Why should she leave you alone if you don't leave her alone?
Recommended Posts