DanY2J Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 The girl who i am seeing work together for the same company and thursday night we had out christmas party. We have been seeing each other for 8 months. We both had a little too much too drink and when we go out i am more inclined to start dancing as she needs to have a few drinks first and for there to be a dance floor full of people. But a song come on that we both really love and i went to find her at the bar and asked her to come and dance with me. I said "lets dance - our song for christmas is on" and i thought i heard her say "ok" so i turned to walk back to the dance floor and oviously turned round and found she was not there. So i carried on dancing with some of the others on the floor. Then about an hour later after a bit more drink we bumped into each other outside the toilets so were alone. I said can we talk and went off upstairs to chat away from everyone else. I asked why she hadnt come to the dance floor and she said she didnt feel like dancing at the moment due to the above reasons and then said that i hadnt spoken to her all evening before then (which is true) I got a little annoyed (drunk) and at the time i was thinking if a song comes on that we both really like we should dance too it. ( i realise now when i am sober that that sounds really childish and pointless and i agree) However we continued talking and she began to walk away so we could get on with the evening and i grabbed the top off her arm (bicep area) and held on to it a little tigter than i should of and said dont walk away when i am talking to you and she said let go off my arm so i did. We ended up making up after that going to the bar to get a drink and enjoying the rest of the evening and going back to hers and everything was fine. The next day i was really hanging after the party and it hit me in the morning about what i had done the night before and she had asked me why i was a bit quiet during the day at work and at lunch i apologised for what i did and said it wont ever happen again and i was sorry if i ruined her evening and she said to stop being silly you didnt ruin anything you actually made it instead! So she has forgiven me, but i cant seem to forgive myself or forget what i did.
creighton0123 Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 Tell her exactly what was bothering you. Being a bit tipsy and drunk, you string words together that sounded extremely hostile. When you said "Don't walk away when I'm talking to you", you meant "Don't walk away when we're talking". Sometimes when people don't want to dance, they simply don't want to dance :-)
Allisha Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 While I don't condone you grabbing her arm and talking down to her in the way you did, at all, just remember that there are worse things you could have done. Let this be a lesson. If you feel you're capable of anything more than what you did (physically, especially), be careful of how much you have to drink around her in the future. The good thing about this story is the fact you feel guilty. It shows that you care about the way you treat her, which is a good thing. Nobody is perfect. It was just a silly thing when you were drunk. You've apologised and accepted responsibility for your actions - there is nothing else you can do. As long as you haven't made her scared of being around you, and it appears you haven't, then cut yourself some slack!
Template Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Is there more to this story? Seems like you made a dumb mistake, and she forgave you for it; I think you should consider yourself grateful. Are you looking to be punished? I think you be overly sensitive, and just look at it as a learning experience and move on. Unless of course there are other details we need to know about.
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