When he names someone famous and says how he wants to end up with someone like that

[caseinpoint]

When a guy you're casually seeing starts naming famous Hollywood women he thinks are great looking and how he wants to end up with someone like that, that's the start of a slippery slope down, if there's any slope left, right?

[Feelin Frisky]

It's a sign of someone who just blabs too much about his fantasies. Either you want to stick around and wait to see if he shows you some real consideration or grease the slope and take a ride away from him. I suppose I might chat with an SO about who is attractive in the entertainment world and listen to her picks too but "ending up with someone like _______(fill in celebrity)" is unflattering and ego-centric.

[caseinpoint]

It's a sign of someone who just blabs too much about his fantasies. Either you want to stick around and wait to see if he shows you some real consideration or grease the slope and take a ride away from him. I suppose I might chat with an SO about who is attractive in the entertainment world and listen to her picks too but "ending up with someone like _______(fill in celebrity)" is unflattering and ego-centric.

 

 

I kind of know what I should do. Just curious about your opinion, I should bail?

[Feelin Frisky]

I kind of know what I should do. Just curious about your opinion, I should bail?

 

Well, it sounds like you're not that invested. It's up to you if you want to risk more to see if he's got character. Or, just take it that he's not considerate enough to realize that talking that way is unflattering and self-centered. I won't damn the guy--I don't know the degree to which this went on. It just doesn't sound good though. It's your choice. Good luck in making the right one.

[caseinpoint]

Well, it sounds like you're not that invested. It's up to you if you want to risk more to see if he's got character. Or, just take it that he's not considerate enough to realize that talking that way is unflattering and self-centered. I won't damn the guy--I don't know the degree to which this went on. It just doesn't sound good though. It's your choice. Good luck in making the right one.

 

Thanks. I don't think of it as much about him being inconsiderate as him not liking me enough.

 

There's a slight difference. I'll get to judge and decide whether to stay when it comesto him being considerate or not considerate. If he doesn't like me enough to come up with that comment, then it's not up to me because I'm already friend material to him.

[caseinpoint]

Anyone else can shed some light on this please?

[Ruby Slippers]

I would think he's a waste of my time, and move on.

 

He's either immature or just an idiot.

[caseinpoint]

I would think he's a waste of my time, and move on.

 

He's either immature or just an idiot.

 

 

Even if we're just casual? Not like we're dating or a couple. That would be immature too? :confused:

[Seamless74]

Is he just joking??? is he just saying he thinks a particular celebrity is hot or cool of likes girls like her?? What ?? If its one of those things where he just lets it slip he thinks so and so is hot and you get all bent out of shape then thats a whole different deal altogether.. So i dont have enough info or context to help you...

[caseinpoint]

Is he just joking??? is he just saying he thinks a particular celebrity is hot or cool of likes girls like her?? What ?? If its one of those things where he just lets it slip he thinks so and so is hot and you get all bent out of shape then thats a whole different deal altogether.. So i dont have enough info or context to help you...

 

He didn't sound like he was joking though.

[Seamless74]

Dude your so being a baby get over it... its a celebrity, its a fantasy, its never ever ever gonna happen... Ill tell you this when im with a girl and unfortunately i let it slip about I like (Geez i dunno) Anne Hathaway or she looked so hot in that movie and the girl im with wanna makes a fight out of it or pout all night... big, big, red flag..... INSECURE GIRL

 

 

Me on the other hand ill even bring it up in conversation because i dig talking pop culture and celebrity smut ill ask a girl who she thinks is hot.. She'll say something stupid like Ryan Reynolds or something and ill be like hes so lame and have fun with it u know?

 

Unless ive got the context all wrong id say grow up...

[caseinpoint]

Dude your so being a baby get over it... its a celebrity, its a fantasy, its never ever ever gonna happen... Ill tell you this when im with a girl and unfortunately i let it slip about I like (Geez i dunno) Anne Hathaway or she looked so hot in that movie and the girl im with wanna makes a fight out of it or pout all night... big, big, red flag..... INSECURE GIRL

 

 

Me on the other hand ill even bring it up in conversation because i dig talking pop culture and celebrity smut ill ask a girl who she thinks is hot.. She'll say something stupid like Ryan Reynolds or something and ill be like hes so lame and have fun with it u know?

 

Unless ive got the context all wrong id say grow up...

 

Since I'm nothing like the named celeb, I felt like he's indirectly letting me down easily.

[Seamless74]

Yeah you just need to remember your a confident woman not a fragile little girl.. I mean Im 5'6 with a shaved head, So that basically means any celebrity a SO of mine would mention would be totally different from me..... Theyre celebrities... you just really need to look within yourself as to why this is such a big deal because chances are its not only this particular thread.. Your insecurities are gonna pop over all kinds of different things, I mean my god what if he you ever caught him looking at another girl in real life how would you handle that u know?

 

Youll be alright... just dont sweat the small stuff confidence is cool.

[Knittress]

People say retarded stuff sometimes that they really don't mean. So I'd give him the benefit of the doubt unless it became a pattern. In general though, I'd interpret this as "Well, I certainly don't dream of ending up with someone like YOU someday." It wouldn't make me feel valued, and I'd probably shut down emotionally.

[that girl]

It think it really depends on what exactly he said.

 

If you were watching say, Sweet Home Alabama and he said that Reese Witherspoon's character is the type of girl he would want to marry, I wouldn't take it too seriously. He could have meant small and blonde (when you're a tall Asian woman) or he could have meant feisty or close to her family. (Almost any movie would work here).

 

If he randomly said, Kiera Knightley is the kind of girl I'd like to marry I would think that was strange (he probably doesn't know her) but not a deal breaker by itself.

 

He's dating you. Obviously he thinks you are pretty.

 

its a celebrity, its a fantasy, its never ever ever gonna happen... Ill tell you this when im with a girl and unfortunately i let it slip about I like (Geez i dunno) Anne Hathaway or she looked so hot in that movie and the girl im with wanna makes a fight out of it or pout all night... big, big, red flag..... INSECURE GIRL

I don't think it is always insecurity (though the OP does seem a little insecure about this guy). I'm not really a fan of guys telling me what actress is hot. I wouldn't pout or start a fight over it because casually saying Anne Hathaway is pretty is just a statement of fact. But if it is a pattern and he regularly comments on what women look like, I find it to be a turn off. I'm not particularly interested in who the hottest actress is so bad conversation skills and it starts to seem like he is too looks focused.

[xpaperxcutx]

Were the conversation the two of you having began with discussing about movies and/or celebrities? I would find it slightly put off if he brings up his " dream girl" out of the blue. However, in general, I wouldn't find this disrespectful because movie stars and models are simply fantasies. Every women and man have them; it's similar to watching porn and having a preference for a certain type of women and/or men.

[caseinpoint]

I'm not sure if it's insecurity or some other of my own issues but I guess I really want to "find out" whether that was his indirect way of telling me he doesn't like me that way. If so, I won't hang around. I'm not that sort to beat someone's door down if they don't want their door broken down.

 

I guess my original question should be whether you think that sort of a comment suggests someone isn't interested. Or they were just fantasizing on something most of us do.

[Seamless74]

I don't think it is always insecurity (though the OP does seem a little insecure about this guy). I'm not really a fan of guys telling me what actress is hot. I wouldn't pout or start a fight over it because casually saying Anne Hathaway is pretty is just a statement of fact. But if it is a pattern and he regularly comments on what women look like, I find it to be a turn off. I'm not particularly interested in who the hottest actress is so bad conversation skills and it starts to seem like he is too looks focused.

 

Agreed ^^

 

 

I'm not sure if it's insecurity or some other of my own issues but I guess I really want to "find out" whether that was his indirect way of telling me he doesn't like me that way. If so, I won't hang around. I'm not that sort to beat someone's door down if they don't want their door broken down.

 

I guess i just dont know what you need from a group of random strangers to ease your mind here... I mean your trying to isolate one incident from every other thing going on in the relationship.. I mean other than this one thing how does he generally make you feel?? If its wanted and appreciated then id stick with that, if there are other things about your realtionship that points to him trying to get rid of you than maybe you should be concerned...

[caseinpoint]

I actually meant people's opinions or views of what that comment suggests. This is what LS is about.

 

Anyway.