Gorgeous married woman might have the hots for me, what do I do???

[y2k]

Ok, there is a woman who lives in my building who is absolutely GORGEOUS. She's married. But from what I heard, she may not be so happy.

 

She smiles and turns into a little girl every time she's near me. Mind you she's an older woman in her 30's. She's made comments to my mother saying that I'm really handsome and that I'm a hunk (her words). But this woman also flirts with me a ton, even in front of my mother. My mom even realized that this woman REALLY likes me. My mom almost gets scared every time we see her, because my mother realizes the way she looks and acts next to me. My mom and this woman are on the board of our co-cop building, so they see each other weekly. Any excuse this woman has to come to my apartment (I still live with my mom and family), she finds. My mom realizes she comes not to attend to building issues, she comes to see me. Like when she rings the bell, she runs in the apartment before my mom can even invite her inside. My room is next to the living room, and she RUNS right near it. Needless to say, my mom gets the creeps every time the woman talks about me. My mother can tell she has the hots for me. So can I.

 

And like I said earlier, the looks she gives me.......WOW. And I really find her hot. I'd love to do something with her. Not long term through. So I ask anyone (especially the experts), how should I go about this??? I'm not married. nor in a relationship. But I ask, how would I go about making a move??? I know in the near future, I'll end up talking with her alone. She's always doing laundry alone in the building's laundry room. We usually see each other in the hallway, elevator, etc.

 

So how do I go about this??? I mean she acts like a little girl who turns red in my presence. So how do I get to tell her I like her and start something with her???? I wouldn't want a long-term relationship with her, but a fling could be perfect. Mind you, she's in the age of her sexual prime, and so am I. I think it could be the best thing for me since I'm not in love with anybody right now. How do I approach her?? How do I pull this off??

 

(And before people on the board start saying "OMG she's married, you're terrible, etc", I've heard her marriage is not going well. On top of that, I'm not married nor in any relationship, so I'm not the one cheating. I would never cheat.)

[Feelin Frisky]

I'm jealous. Wish I had your dilemma. I don't know what to tell you except the obvious--pick a moment where you can make a move on her and do it. Be careful of course not to risk getting killed by the angry husband, cassanova.

[paleblue]

Seriously Not Cool.

[Woggle]

Turn around and run the other way. It is not worth it. Also I would bet my house that her husband is not nearly as bad as she says he is. Women like her always find a bunch of excuses.

[Kendrick]

No matter how gorgeous she is, why do you want someone else's left overs? Who cares if she is unhappy in her marriage its not your problem, let her get a divorce if shes that miserable. But some people do not care if they cheat and some people do not care if they help them cheat. So my guess is, you will do it regardless. Hope her husband isn't the jealous kind that will come after you. With you all living in the same building, he wouldn't have far to go to find you.

Edited December 18, 2010 by Kendrick

[Scottdmw]

What she is doing to her husband indicates that she is not a good person. He is quite possibly a good man who has no idea anything is wrong. Read some of the threads on the divorce section of this site. Listen to some of the men who talk about how they were blindsided by things like this and how much it hurt them. How it ruined their lives. Understand that if you take part in this, you will be contributing to that. Understand that there is a relatively small but real danger that her husband will find out and come after you with a firearm, and some people will defend him on that.

 

No matter how beautiful she is, it is not worth it. There is no good ending to this story. Forget about her, and find a woman that is available. You will be much much happier.

 

Scott

[JackJack]

"Gorgeous married woman might have the hots for me, what do I do???"

 

Well you pursue her of course, then you sit back and wait for the knock on your door from her husband.

[Feelin Frisky]

What she is doing to her husband indicates that she is not a good person....

 

Tisk tisk. Who knows the husband's story in this case. He could just as easily be guilty of something else or many something's else. She won't be doing anything to him. She'll have to check the unfaitful box on her own secret profile and keep it checked forever but if I were the OP and this gorgeous older woman just had to have some of me, I'd acquiesce. I'd have to check the horny young guy box on my secret profile but that box and the check within it will disappear soon enough.

[y2k]

Tisk tisk. Who knows the husband's story in this case. He could just as easily be guilty of something else or many something's else. She won't be doing anything to him. She'll have to check the unfaitful box on her own secret profile and keep it checked forever but if I were the OP and this gorgeous older woman just had to have some of me, I'd acquiesce. I'd have to check the horny young guy box on my secret profile but that box and the check within it will disappear soon enough.

 

Well actually about the husband......you want to know how he met his wife???? He was actually married to another woman and even had a kid with her, and he was having an extramarital affair with the woman he's married to now (i.e. the woman who has the hots for me). Eventually the guy left his wife and married this woman. So this husband is no saint. But this only get juicier.........the husband...is a local politician (nothing big, just local of our district for the city). And he's out of the house plenty. With this background, I can assure you all the he's not saint like the men who post and complain about evil women screwing them over.

 

But I ask some of the more clever men here.....how would you initiate this???? Like imagine you're alone with her in, say, the laundry room........what would you say, etc???? Because I don't want her to think I'm going to want to be with her in something serious either. I mean she's a MILF, but not a woman I'd want to be with for any long term special relationship. She's already broken one marriage, and she's got the "tramp stamp" tattooed on her lower back so....(if that means anything, lol).

[JackJack]

"Well actually about the husband......you want to know how he met his wife???? He was actually married to another woman and even had a kid with her, and he was having an extramarital affair with the woman he's married to now (i.e. the woman who has the hots for me). Eventually the guy left his wife and married this woman."

 

Wow, so they both sound like winners.

 

"How would you initiate this???"

 

Dude, so you care nothing about her being married, or the fact you would be a contributing factor to cheating, that is if she infact did cheat with you? Is your self esteem that low and you feel like you can not get a single woman out here on your own? Or maybe, its because shes so "gorgeous" and you're not that much to look at so you think this is your one oppotunity to get with a better looking woman? So lets say she is turning on the flirt with you, and you think you have a chance, and lets say she shoots you down, then what?

[PandorasBox]

She is married and flirting. I do not care what her husbnad did or has done as far as having an affair with her and leaving his wife to marry her. Maybe she flirted with him to and thats how she got him. Bottom line neither person cares that much about how the other one feels or how it might affect the other, espcially since she was his affair partner to begin with. Nor do you care, you're just looking to hook up with the hottie in the building so therefore:

 

There is no initiation! If she is flirting with you and you have the hots for her and bound and determinded to get with her, ( you did state you didn;t want any kind of lasting relationship with her) so you just go up to her and tell her how you feel and what you want from her, point blank. Wham bam thank you ma'am should be fine for you.

[Feelin Frisky]

... But I ask some of the more clever men here.....how would you initiate this???? Like imagine you're alone with her in, say, the laundry room........what would you say, etc???? ...

 

I don't know. Let a Cheez Doodle protrude from your mouth and gesture for her to take it with hers. Just kidding. You'll just have to take a chance and veture a gesture. You don't want to ask her out for coffee. You apparently want to sex her up and think maybe that's what she wants from you. If that's the nature of how you want it, you should reflect that in your approach. If your alone with her in the laundry room and sparks are going off, just go up to her and say: "you know, god you're so beautiful". If she acts aloof then back off. If she plays, play. If she shows she won't resist an andance keep plowing ahead. It might be exciting for her to break out and make out right there on the spot. No way to tell from here. I would throw my soap cup aside to signal abandon if she looked like she was letting it happen.

[Cee]

This does not sound like a torrid affair in the making. It sounds like a pathetic teen age crush. What married woman hits on a guy in front of his mother? I feel bad for your mom. She doesn't deserve to be complicit in an affair.

 

Move out, get your own place, and then ask the woman out. My guess is she'll string you along, tease you to death, and then say she could never cheat on her hubby. Or she'll cheat and some horrible drama will follow that will somehow harm your mom.

 

Sounds like fun. Def, go for it.

[EnigmasMuse]

Next time you see her, tell her you noticed her flirting with you, you know she wants you and that you get a boner everytime you see her, because she is just so gorgeous! It should do the trick, if not, maybe her flirts were just a tease and nothing more.

[TheLoveAdvisor]

Dude, she's married.... Some old friend I found on Facebook tried to start something with my wife.... So, I told him I would do some damage if he did anything, he backed out fast.....

Now, another friend told me he ain't worth going to prison for, but I told my Friend my wife is worth it....

[Dexter Morgan]

be a man, ask her husband how you should approach his wife

[hopesndreams]

be a man, ask her husband how you should approach his wife

 

Nice one!

[y2k]

She is married and flirting. I do not care what her husbnad did or has done as far as having an affair with her and leaving his wife to marry her. Maybe she flirted with him to and thats how she got him. Bottom line neither person cares that much about how the other one feels or how it might affect the other, espcially since she was his affair partner to begin with. Nor do you care, you're just looking to hook up with the hottie in the building so therefore:

 

There is no initiation! If she is flirting with you and you have the hots for her and bound and determinded to get with her, ( you did state you didn;t want any kind of lasting relationship with her) so you just go up to her and tell her how you feel and what you want from her, point blank. Wham bam thank you ma'am should be fine for you.

 

This seems like the best advice here. Thanks. I'll definitely have to see what's up. If she continues the looks and hard flirting, I'll have to see if she feels something for me, and if we can "get it on" so to speak. Of course I'm not dumb. I know this woman is not a worthwhile girlfriend potential because she doesn't seem like the type that could be a loyal life partner.

 

I'm not saying she's a hoe or anything like that, but considering the way she met her current husband, and they way she's acting with me, any guy who'd want to stay longer with her after the physical fun, is only thinking with his peewee.

 

But she's a real hottie. For the guys out there, imagine a real hot latina MILF.....she's the classic definition of it. I mean I've had girls my age, but something like this will never come back to me in my life, and many of us boys dream of it in one shape or the other so I guess it's time I live the dream.

 

I mean to even flirt with me in front of my own mother and asking my mother, in an anxious way, if I have a girlfriend or not, along with the constant looks means something is up that tree. I wish to dig!!!! Wish me luck love shack!!!!!

[Trimmer]

I mean to even flirt with me in front of my own mother and asking my mother, in an anxious way, if I have a girlfriend or not, along with the constant looks means something is up that tree.

One thing it means is that she isn't very discreet about showing her lustful side. I would thing that would serve you well if you do "get with her."

[MJ2]

Nothing. Regardless if she's happy or not, she's still married. Do you really want to put yourself in that situation?

 

there are plenty of available women who probably find you just as attractive. Wait for one of them, trust me! Married people are not good love intrests! Drama and legal issues = no fun

[reservoirdog1]

If you're going to insist on getting involved with her, be prepared to move out shortly afterwards. When the shyt hits the proverbial fan, your co-op isn't exactly going to be a relaxing, stress-free place to live. What with a jealous jilted husband wanting to cut your dick off and shove it down your throat.

 

Come to think of it... even if you do move out, your mom's still going to be stuck living there. And I can't imagine it'll be all that pleasant for her, having to repeatedly cross paths with (a) the married woman her son banged, and (b) said married woman's husband.

 

Other than some (maybe good, maybe bad) sex and an ego boost, you won't really be getting anything out of this. And it comes with some pretty high costs. Not just for you, but for the other people impacted by the choice you're thinking of making.

 

I know teenagers don't usually think about the consequences of their actions, but maybe now is a time to start. Just sayin'.

[paleblue]

If you're going to insist on getting involved with her, be prepared to move out shortly afterwards. When the shyt hits the proverbial fan, your co-op isn't exactly going to be a relaxing, stress-free place to live. What with a jealous jilted husband wanting to cut your dick off and shove it down your throat.

 

Come to think of it... even if you do move out, your mom's still going to be stuck living there. And I can't imagine it'll be all that pleasant for her, having to repeatedly cross paths with (a) the married woman her son banged, and (b) said married woman's husband.

 

Other than some (maybe good, maybe bad) sex and an ego boost, you won't really be getting anything out of this. And it comes with some pretty high costs. Not just for you, but for the other people impacted by the choice you're thinking of making.

 

I know teenagers don't usually think about the consequences of their actions, but maybe now is a time to start. Just sayin'.

 

 

all of this is true.

 

if you're thinking this will stay a secret, think again. woman can't keep a secret. they never have been able too, and they never will be able too. she will tell someone. chances are good it will get back to her husband.

 

i can tell you've made up your mind. you will if she lets you. so im not going to preach. all i am saying is i hope you will come back to Loveshack and tell us whats it's like to have to go thru life as a guy with your dick cut off.

[Kendrick]

Why can't you get a gorgeous single woman?

[Feelin Frisky]

Why can't you get a gorgeous single woman?

One in hand is worth two in the bush. Sorry to further wear than one out.

[Kendrick]

Well he did say she told his mom he was handsome or even hot. So guess he isn't a bow wow. Guess he figures he might as well take the opportunity if its presenting itself.