EnglishTeacher Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 Hi everyone. I'm new to this board. I just needed somewhere to vent. Friends and family don't always want to hear negative crap in your life. Right now, I'm pissed to the point where I don't give a crap anymore. So, a little about my relationship. I'm 32, she's 29. We've been dating for 7 months now. Everything was going well for the first 2 months. So, for the last five months, my problem with her has been escalating. It started out as her telling me that she doesn't like to see me all the time. So, fine, everyone needs space. I didn't mind. We don't live very far from each other, and our work hours are very similar. So seeing each other is not a problem. Then, little by little, she starts ignoring for friends, dinner with co-workers, doesn't want to see me, tired, she has her period, she'll see me tomorrow, etc. I've never heard so many excuses from any girlfriend before. The list goes on and on. So we haven't seen each other for a week. It was Friday last night, and we had planned to see each other. She said that she is going to have dinner with her co-workers and she'll meet up with me later. Little surprise, she flaked on me again. This isn't the first time, or second time. This has happened repeatedly. So, I've had several serious talks with her already about this situation. I've given her the silent for a week before, got angry at her, ignored her, talked with her like real adults, gave her chance after chance, and tried everything that anyone here will suggest. So, I didn't call her yesterday, because she doesn't deserve it. She calls me 12:30 at night, and asks why I haven't called her. To me, she knows the reason why, and is probably "testing the water." My reply was a simple, "I don't have a reason." It was cold, blunt, and said without any kind of anger or feeling to it. I don't like getting angry. So, she hung up on me. She didn't even apologize for flaking on me. It's like it was all my fault for being a jerk. What she wanted was to have her cake and eat it too. She wanted to see her co-workers, hang out with them, tell me to piss off, and hope that I wouldn't get angry. Lately, we've gone to seeing each other 2 days a week. She doesn't make any effort to see me at all, but makes all effort to hang out with other people. It's not like she has a busy schedule or anything. She spends so much time with other people. 7 months into the relationship, we should still be in our honeymoon stage, but I don't feel anything. I'm so sick and tired of it. And I know what some people may tell me, that she's seeing someone else. She's not. Other people may tell me, that she's not that into me. That, I believe. But she plays a lot of stupid games. Last week, I told her, after flaking on me again, that it was over. She refused to accept it, and called me the next day. So I gave her a chance again, stupid me.
whichwayisup Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 You are right..She isn't into you..Anymore. And you're right again, 7 months in you two should be in the honeymoon phase, wanting to spend alot of time together (in a healthy way), having sex alot. She sounds immature and is playing games. Instead of ignoring her and playing a game back, just officially end it and ask her to please respect your wishes, not to call you.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 Shes not into you at all, shes not playing games. She just genuinely doesnt like you much. You know the difference between now and the beginning of the relationship. She lost her attraction to you, hurry up and break it off, she just doesnt want to be alone. She needs to be alone. Dont let her use you until someon she thinks is better comes along.
Author EnglishTeacher Posted December 18, 2010 Author Posted December 18, 2010 I figured that was the case. I'm going to break it off like a man should.
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