Need decoding cheating wife's reminder note.

[noclue]

I recently caught my wife cheating on me and we have tried to work it out. I'm trusting her now, to an extent. One thing that is odd is that she has a post-it taped to her cell phone that says "N O Y A R D". I made a joke about the note the other day, not thinking anything of it, but her reaction was to lie. (I know her VERY well and know when she's lying.)

 

She said it was just something for her to remember to do something. I, on the other hand, think it's a reminder to "feel" everytime she gets an innapropriate text message from a certain guy. Hopefully it's just to remind herself to not respond to his texts and that cheating isn't worth it.

 

Anyways... I've been racking my brain over what the letters might stand for, but don't want to appear nosey and pushy by asking her. Any ideas from all of you??!! One clue is that my name is Donald, so maybe the last letter stands for that. Otherwise I have no good ideas.

 

N O Y A R D

Edited December 17, 2010 by noclue

[Distant78]

I recently caught my wife cheating on me and we have tried to work it out. I'm trusting her now, to an extent. One thing that is odd is that she has a post-it taped to her cell phone that says "N O Y A R D". I made a joke about the note the other day, not thinking anything of it, but her reaction was to lie. (I know her VERY well and know when she's lying.)

 

She said it was just something for her to remember to do something. I, on the other hand, think it's a reminder to "feel" everytime she gets an innapropriate text message from a certain guy. Hopefully it's just to remind herself to not respond to his texts and that cheating isn't worth it.

 

Anyways... I've been racking my brain over what the letters might stand for, but don't want to appear nosey and pushy by asking her. Any ideas from all of you??!! One clue is that my name is Donald, so maybe the last letter stands for that. Otherwise I have no good ideas.

 

N O Y A R D

 

Yea, something fishy about that. Probably stands for a reference to the other man.

[Iconoclast]

So why are you trusting her without verification? Cheaters need to be monitored.

[Linda9999]

If you're not in a place with her that you can flat out ask her what it stands for and get told the truth with no reservations, you have no reason to be trusting her.

[hoping2heal]

If you're not in a place with her that you can flat out ask her what it stands for and get told the truth with no reservations, you have no reason to be trusting her.

 

This exactly. Her lying should be taken very seriously. If you blow it off that just reinforces she can continue to decieve you and get away with it. The fact that she is still telling lies to you, signals she doesn't have the desire to be honest and not decieve you. Who cares what NOYARD means? This whole story adds up to : NOTRUST

[PortuguesePrincess80]

I recently caught my wife cheating on me and we have tried to work it out. I'm trusting her now, to an extent. One thing that is odd is that she has a post-it taped to her cell phone that says "N O Y A R D". I made a joke about the note the other day, not thinking anything of it, but her reaction was to lie. (I know her VERY well and know when she's lying.)

 

She said it was just something for her to remember to do something. I, on the other hand, think it's a reminder to "feel" everytime she gets an innapropriate text message from a certain guy. Hopefully it's just to remind herself to not respond to his texts and that cheating isn't worth it.

 

Anyways... I've been racking my brain over what the letters might stand for, but don't want to appear nosey and pushy by asking her. Any ideas from all of you??!! One clue is that my name is Donald, so maybe the last letter stands for that. Otherwise I have no good ideas.

 

N O Y A R D

 

You don't want to appear nosey and pushey? Did I read that right? Did I also read she "recently" cheated and your trusting her now? Sheesh talk about digging your head in the sand! Man up dude. I'd ask her straight up what NOYARD stands for...and she better not bull**** either.

 

How can you trust her and not question her on anything? Sounds like your taking this way to easily..and won't be long before she does it again...since hell your being so non-chalant about it. I don't get it.

 

NOYARD = Never own your affair relationship to Donald!

[rowell2024]

Seems to me that the wife is still in the affair, or in the affair fog at the very least because she's still keeping secrets and lying. I think it's very difficult to R without complete transparency, which means no secrets. If she is truly remorseful about the affair, then she would have no qualms about you snooping through her stuff. Don't feel guilty about appearing nosy, she gave up her right to personal privacy when she had the affair. If she gets angry about it, then she still has something to hide.

 

Get a keylogger to monitor the computers ASAP! And if you have access to the cellphone account online, bring up the call history. The affair partners will need to keep in touch with each other by computer and cell phone.

Edited December 18, 2010 by rowell2024

[DeBunked]

In real estate No Yard means just that...referring to condo's

 

Sexually it could possibly mean she is shaving that special place for someone.

[Molley]

you need to ask her what it means, or it will eat at you to no end. If you feels she's lying, she is. Although, I don't agree with once a cheater always a cheater... at this point, you need to verify.

 

When she ended the affair, did she tell the OM to no longer call? She need to get rid of his number and get a new cell phone.

 

NOYARD = NO! Own Your Affair, Remember Donald.

[Woman In Blue]

I recently caught my wife cheating on me and we have tried to work it out.

Well, you're trying to 'work it out.' Her? Not so much if she's still lying.

 

Stop being a doormat and pussyfooting around, letting her lie to your face like that then coming and asking a bunch of strangers on an internet message board what "NOYARD" means. Jeez. Women don't respect passive, wimpy men and that's how you're acting. She'll continue to lie to you until you start man-ing up and taking control.

[ConflictedGuy27]

do you and your wife have any children?

[Distant78]

You don't have time to be trying to figure out something stupid she wrote. Demand she quit playing games, tell you what it means, and respect you more, or that you'll pack a bag for her to get the hell out.

[goingstrong]

Ask a teenager..they know all of the texting lingo.

[confusedinkansas]

You know about the infidelity - She knows you know about the infidelity.......Have ya thought of this ~~HOW STUPID would she be if she were to still be seeing this guy & tape a note to her phone that has something to do with him.........REALLY>? Give the woman a little credit here!

IF IF IF she were still cheating I'd think she would for sure hide any note. Not leave it right out in the open for you to ask her about it........(Great big IF).

YOU decided to give her a chance. So do just that.......GIVE HER A CHANCE.

 

Yes, she hasn't come forth with what it means........HOWEVER, has

anyone thought it's very near Christmastime & she could be reminding herself to pick up a gift for you...!! :) & THAT'S why she hasn't said what it is?

 

If it bugs so much......just ask her point blank. Tell her you won't take the reasoning "Just to remind me to do something"....Make her tell you what the SOMETHING is. Then it won't bug ya anymore.

[Dexter Morgan]

I recently caught my wife cheating on me and we have tried to work it out. I'm trusting her now, to an extent. One thing that is odd is that she has a post-it taped to her cell phone that says "N O Y A R D". I made a joke about the note the other day, not thinking anything of it, but her reaction was to lie. (I know her VERY well and know when she's lying.)

 

did you ask her straight up what it meant? sounds like code to me.

 

 

She said it was just something for her to remember to do something.

 

ya, and she wasn't about to tell you the details of what it was.

 

i'd say you have reason to not trust her again. she is being secretive.

 

 

I, on the other hand, think it's a reminder to "feel" everytime she gets an innapropriate text message from a certain guy.

 

could be, which would be why she didn't tell you. She isn't being the open book that a cheater needs to be if they want to keep the marriage.

 

If you are correct and it is a reminder to not respond to texts from certain guys, why hasn't she blocked them?

 

 

Hopefully it's just to remind herself to not respond to his texts and that cheating isn't worth it.

 

I'd ask her straight up, "what does this mean", if she says its just to reminder her of something, ask, "what exactly?"

 

You GET the details out of her. If she waffles like in the think it over a TWIX commercials, you'll know she is trying to think of a good lie.

 

You ask her what it means and don't let her be vague.

[Dexter Morgan]

You know about the infidelity - She knows you know about the infidelity.......Have ya thought of this ~~HOW STUPID would she be if she were to still be seeing this guy & tape a note to her phone that has something to do with him.........REALLY>? Give the woman a little credit here!

 

she doesn't deserve any credit for being a cheater and being secretive about a note, no matter what the reason the note is.

 

if it happens to be something about a Christmas present, then she simply spills the beans about it because if she wants to prove anything to him, its not worth making someone you f####d over suspicious over a Christmas present.

 

But lets get real, we are talking about a cheater being secretive here. There are "what ifs", and there is common sense. Her being secretive about anything makes NO sense.

[samspade]

Who cares what it means? Divorce her.

[confusedinkansas]

I didn't mean give her a break because she cheated.

I meant that IF IF IF she were still cheating don't you think she wouldn't just leave a note like that out in the open for everyone to see??.......Give her a break.

OP has made the decision to stay with her & work things out - Just seems to me he's really not giving it a chance.

 

CONSIDERING she did cheat, should she tell him what the note means? ABSOLUTELY. She shouldn't be keeping any secrets, even if it's a note on her phone.

 

I'm just saying too that because it's Christmas - Maybe it has something to do with that. One never knows. Lots here look at worse case scenario - EVERY TIME!! Even when it's not always the case. Just makes me wonder if.....In real life do you all ALWAYS think of worse case scenario & think that everyone is out to deceive you too?

Edited December 20, 2010 by confusedinkansas

[Dexter Morgan]

I didn't mean give her a break because she cheated.

I meant that IF IF IF she were still cheating don't you think she wouldn't just leave a note like that out in the open for everyone to see??

 

sure, nobody has accused cheaters of being very bright.

 

 

 

.......Give her a break.

OP has made the decision to stay with her & work things out - Just seems to me he's really not giving it a chance.

 

well when the cheater is secretive, its kind of taking the chance they have been given and spitting in the face of the person that was willing to give it to them.

 

 

CONSIDERING she did cheat, should she tell him what the note means? ABSOLUTELY. She shouldn't be keeping any secrets, even if it's a note on her phone.

 

and thats our point. she purposely gave him a vague, bulls##t answer.

 

 

Lots here look at worse case scenario - EVERY TIME!!

 

uh no, its about a cheater still being secretive. nothing worse case about it. it is what it is.

 

 

Even when it's not always the case. Just makes me wonder if.....In real life do you all ALWAYS think of worse case scenario & think that everyone is out to deceive you too?

 

no, but anyone can see that she is deceiving him.

 

I hope he asks her straight up what the note is. If she tells him what the acronym NOYARD means and it makes perfect sense, like if its a surprise for him for Christmas, I'll eat my words.

 

but again, if there was a perfectly good explanation, she would have told him. bottom line, she is hiding something, and it isn't a Christmas surprise.

[desertIslandCactus]

Aside from the many good responses i.e. ask her, etc..

 

Have you tried googling: Noyard and Drayon to see if anything comes to mind.

[wicar1]

I recently caught my wife cheating on me and we have tried to work it out. I'm trusting her now, to an extent. One thing that is odd is that she has a post-it taped to her cell phone that says "N O Y A R D". I made a joke about the note the other day, not thinking anything of it, but her reaction was to lie. (I know her VERY well and know when she's lying.)

 

She said it was just something for her to remember to do something. I, on the other hand, think it's a reminder to "feel" everytime she gets an innapropriate text message from a certain guy. Hopefully it's just to remind herself to not respond to his texts and that cheating isn't worth it.

 

Anyways... I've been racking my brain over what the letters might stand for, but don't want to appear nosey and pushy by asking her. Any ideas from all of you??!! One clue is that my name is Donald, so maybe the last letter stands for that. Otherwise I have no good ideas.

 

N O Y A R D

 

I googled and it gave this..LOL I see no connection

http://www.myspace.com/noyard

 

Dude..this is enough reason to spy on her... Most probably she's doing something behind your back...afterall she's a cheater.

 

Hmm...this is why I wish cheating marriages must end in a Divorce.

[2010_Sorry]

Could NOYARD be a reminder that the grass cannot be greener on the other side because there is no yard??

 

Maybe it is a reminder to herself that there is "no place like home"... ?

[road]

noyard

 

In propety rental means no yard work has to be done by the renter and can also mean no yard space available for tenent use

[pharis]

check this to find out if they cheat http://www.wellmug.com/?x9c87002

[fltc]

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