DoomedLuv Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Hey, I'm Nita,21 yr old. I'm currently dating this guy who was my senior(by 2 yrs) but was finally in my class as he could not clear his subjects. He moved to different city and we fell in love after that, as we talked a lot. My problem is recently my friend found out from one of our senior that this guy was not only into alcohol, smoking , drug addict but also frequently had sex with hookers. My bf told me about his drinking habits, his crazy dating spree, drugs everything but never told about hookers. He always told his friend was in to it and he resented it. I had no clue about his past because he seemed to be nice and very caring. He says he loves me and intends to marry me.He loves me it just shows in his actions. I can't get this thing out of my mind. I dint confront him about it and I m not sure what to do.I love him just till yesterday I thought I was in a perfect relationship . He has changed and now he is very responsible, studies well, behaves well . Yet, I can't trust him any further, specially being in LDR. I have no clue what to do? (I found out that my x-bf was cheating on me, that was a big episode in my life).
Eddie Edirol Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Hey, I'm Nita,21 yr old. I'm currently dating this guy who was my senior(by 2 yrs) but was finally in my class as he could not clear his subjects. He moved to different city and we fell in love after that, as we talked a lot. My problem is recently my friend found out from one of our senior that this guy was not only into alcohol, smoking , drug addict but also frequently had sex with hookers. My bf told me about his drinking habits, his crazy dating spree, drugs everything but never told about hookers. He always told his friend was in to it and he resented it. I had no clue about his past because he seemed to be nice and very caring. He says he loves me and intends to marry me.He loves me it just shows in his actions. I can't get this thing out of my mind. I dint confront him about it and I m not sure what to do.I love him just till yesterday I thought I was in a perfect relationship . He has changed and now he is very responsible, studies well, behaves well . Yet, I can't trust him any further, specially being in LDR. I have no clue what to do? (I found out that my x-bf was cheating on me, that was a big episode in my life). You're projecting your big episodes and mistrust from your ex onto your present bf. Thats not a healthy habit. If you cant handle trusting a guy in an LDR, then go find a local guy. If he isnt having sex with hookers while he's with you now, theres nothing for you to worry about. Plus, he didnt tell you because...well....look how youre acting! Women arent forgiving when it comes to hookers, young girls like you dont understand how some guys have to get laid to be more confident in themselves. Women dont understand that they dont have to be at the same confidence level that guys do to get a companion in general. You wanna know what to do? dont do anything. Theres nothing to do. He shows you love and is into you. Youre lucky you have a guy whos 23 talking about marriage with you, thats a gift. Unless you're looking for a reason to torpedo this, have some confidence in his actions towards you.
Linda9999 Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 1) get tested for STI's 2) ask him to get tested for STI's and DO NOT sleep with him again till you know for a fact he's clean. You have to talk to the doc or see something in writing Why does it bother you so much if it's before you were with him? Sure, it's scuzzy, but it's also pretty common. Will he talk to you about it at all? Is there anything making you think he's still doing it? Have you talked about his other previous sexual experiences? If he hadn't been with hookers but had been with multiple other women, would it still bother you?
112233 Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 1) get tested for STI's 2) ask him to get tested for STI's and DO NOT sleep with him again till you know for a fact he's clean. You have to talk to the doc or see something in writing Why does it bother you so much if it's before you were with him? Sure, it's scuzzy, but it's also pretty common. Will he talk to you about it at all? Is there anything making you think he's still doing it? Have you talked about his other previous sexual experiences? If he hadn't been with hookers but had been with multiple other women, would it still bother you? So I don't dispute your advice, but how is that different from an other guy who's gone through college? If anything hookers are probably more likely to insist on safe practices than some college age bimbo would be.
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