loanwolfmcquade Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Hi all, I have recently broken up with my ex girlfriend of 2 1/2 years. Long story short we met in college I lived with her and two of her brothers for a year and then we moved to the city for about 8 months. I was super close with her family and even worked for her dad for several months. Anyways we broke up about 5 weeks ago and I have been in NC for about 3-4 weeks. She told me that she still loves me and misses me but not as much as she should. I moved 3 hours and now live on the other side of the state. I was just curious if anyone has had any success stories in getting back together with an ex girlfriend from long distance. Either way I am living my life and moving forward despite giving her a promise ring and us both being each others first long term lovers. Ironically 4 of my other best friends broke up during the same month and 2 of those friends lived in the same city and are now living back were I live. I guess its that time of year to break up or something. Thanks for any insight
Author loanwolfmcquade Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 I forgot to mention- the reason we broke up was because we argued quite a bit the last three months of the relationship. It seemed like communication and her commitment faded and all the little "disputes" led to the break up. In fact she said the day we broke up that she hated the way we were together and she was unhappy and didn't know herself anymore. I agreed to the break up and even carried a bag to her car. I wrote a letter telling her I understand what the relationship had to end and that we were unhealthy to each other. I did go through a rough time but having my best friends going through this at the same point is actually really helpful now that we all live in the same city again. Again thanks for any insight
Don_da_Ho Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Bro, she's made it clear she doesn't have "that" feeling for you anymore by the fighting and breaking up with you. When a woman reaches that point, you're done. Then there's the fact that you're 3 hours away. IMO, let it go and find a new, local woman. That relationship has run its course. Good luck.
Author loanwolfmcquade Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 Ya I am not putting my life on hold at all, I just have her on the back of my mind is all, we were really good together and both our families, her friends and my friends were really surprised we actually broke up. Anyways I was just curious if there were any positive stories out there. I have read a lot of posts and many seem to be negative or suggestions to move on which is not bad advice. I know I can move on I just wanted to see some positive success stories. Thanks for the advice Don da Ho
Mrlonelyone Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 There are success stories in a thread dawn the page a bit.
aerogurl87 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I broke up with my ex (notice the word "ex") and we lived a few states away from one another. It didn't work out. We tried to make it work and had we lived closer and been able to see each other even once a week or so, we'd probably still be together. But when you add distance which is already stressful, and the wounds fresh breakups leave in their wake, then you have a recipe for disaster. By the way, I agree with Don Da Ho. If she's lost that "feeling" for you, then it's as good as done. It's like R. Kelly says in his song When A Woman's Fed Up. "When a woman's fed up, there ain't nothing you can do about it. It's like running out of luck, and it's too late to talk about it."
Author loanwolfmcquade Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 ya I have heard that song. Its funny how all the love songs come out after a break up and make it worse lol. I did want to mention that my exes younger brother broke up with his girlfriend for some time and then got together after like 6 months and they live on opposite sides of the state. His girlfriend actually lives in the same city as me and he lives on the opposite side. Her older brother did the same also broke up with his girlfriend like 3 years ago got back together this past year and now they are getting married this summer. I know every relationship is different and you can't expect lightning in a bottle, but I can't help but think that maybe this is like a family trait or something lol. I can say having friends that are going through this at the same time helps and this time of year also when family is around to ease the pain.
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