cj2 Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Well I feel useless today. A bunch of people at work decided to go out for a few drinks after work, asked me along and I said yes, thinking it would be really good to get out and about. Then I found out that the pub they were going to was the one my ex frequents quite often after work. I freaked out, completely, for fear of seeing her. I made up a lame excuse to my work colleagues and came home instead. I feel really weak, but I just couldn't handle the thought of bumping into her! Someone please tell me this will get easier!
AndrewJDC Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Well, it does get easier in time. I went through it a couple of weeks ago, saw my ex having a fag with a bunch of chavs. She said hi, I just walked on past. Luckily I was with my new mrs who is better in every way whilst she has gone back to her chavvy past and is back hanging with scum. Ha ha, actually made me feel good and glad for the breakup!
steelknife Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 in will get easier. not now. but in time.. you are doing the right thing by avoiding AT ALL COST bumping into her. you are actually doing yourself a favor. you will be able to to gain two things by avoiding places where you thnk you might see her. 1. you will not see her. how happy she seemed to be. or how it looked like she has completely moved on and there you are still pinning for her 2. she will not see how sad and pathetic you are. you might put up a brave face but deep inside you, you know what it feels. be strong. all this shall come to an end. it will still hurt. you will still miss her and long for her. but in time, it gets easier to live with. the goal now is for you to be able to remove yourself from the situation and to not keep on hurting. just hang on. and love yourself first. cheers.
poorguy Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 I agree, you did the right thing by avoiding the entire situation. If your not comfortable then why do it?
Author cj2 Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 Thanks for the support! It felt really self defeating in some ways, because there are a couple of girls at work I quite like who were going and although I am a long way off wanting to be with anyone yet, I thought it would give my confidence a boost to go out with them. I suppose there will be other chances though, where I will be able to actually relax!
tobydog Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 You did the right thing.....I had the chance to go out and then thought maybe he would be there with his new friends and slapper. So I would have got drunk and punched either him or her or both. Well not really as I am not the violent sort! Not worth it. Keep away till you are fully healed and better. Take care Dx
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