tb24 Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 (edited) I met a rather quirky but genuinely interesting hippy girl on the train the other night. I should probably go into some more detail... It was the last train into london and just after midnight. This quite pretty, although unusually attired girl sat down opposite me in an otherwise empty carriage. I was actually busy checking my email on my phone so didn't really pay her any attention. She obviously wanted it and started playing what I later found out is called a "kalimba", an african instrument. Obviously I was intrigued and inquired what it was and we had a nice chat about music and other stuff. I could tell she liked me, from the way she was acting... she even made a point of implying she was single. Anyway, before I had to get off, I asked for her number. Oddly she said she didn't have a mobile at the moment (red flag?) but told me her full name and asked me to add her on facebook. Then she gave me her landline number as well. I added her on FB, she accepted and I sent her a message the next day (Was this too soon?) That was tuesday. She never responded though she's been on facebook several times. Perhaps she saw something on my FB she didn't like? She didn't unfriend me so it can't have been that bad Am I reading too much into it? Should I just give her more time? What's my next step here? I'll give her at least a couple of days, then what do I do? Follow up with a phone call or another FB message? How can I do that without seeming desperate? Perhaps it was my message? I just asked how she was getting on and told her I enjoyed our brief chat. I was gonna ask her out but asking her out over facebook seems a bit lame. I was hoping for a couple of messages back and forth then to call her. I also didn't want to just add her without saying hi. That would be weird. She's just not that into me? She seemed she was when we met... Edited December 17, 2010 by tb24
january2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 (edited) In my opinion, giving out her landline number was a big deal. She didn't have to do that, she could have just given you her FB details. That suggests to me that she wanted you to contact her. Whether or not there's any romantic interest there, is another matter. If you'd really like to pursue this, I suggest giving it a few more days for her to reply on FB before calling her to ask her out for a coffee. Then take it from there. Edited December 19, 2010 by january2010
that girl Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Giving you her landline was a very good sign. Your facebook message didn't really encourage her to respond. You didn't ask a question or follow up about anything. You just said it was nice to meet her. It is better to ask something or send a link to something she might be interested in. Anything that encourages a response. Otherwise, you should have just asked her out.
ascendotum Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I agree with the above post. You got her number, make use of it in the next couple of days, and ask her out. There doesn't seem to any cloudy issues here as regards her interest in you from the train night. Don't be discouraged by your 1 FB msg. For a hippy/alt chick I don't know if not owning a mobile is that much of a red flag.
Seamless74 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 either way let us know how it goes.. remember no big deal either way unless she had hairy pits in that case yummy!!! (and if you dont get with her it would be a total shame). jk........ kinda Also might wanna make sure you show the appropriate amount of sexual interest up front in the future to make sure she knows your not just another ridiculously irrelevant FB friend or sender and receiver of meaningless digital communication but an actual sexual being.. As well as maybe plant the seed or the reason as to why your going to want to talk further i.e. set up a get together, coffee meetup whatever that way shed know what to expect and when.. And you say she implied she was single did you inquire on your own as well? And remember other than saying she looked unique or trippy sometimes the average or slightly above can be the hardest to proceed with because they get alot of attention because every guy thinks they can bang um (even though they cant) and if shes friendly on top of that u know?? But bottom line big ^^s on the chat mate cheers!!!
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