Is this what normal marriages go through?

[ScornedBob]

I'm currently having the worst marriage possible and don't know if this is normal. It seems nothing I ever do or say is right. It's either followed by sarcastic comments, yellings, small objects or a dish thrown on the floor and put downs.

 

Last week my wife of 6 months and I got into an argument, well she was the one yelling as usual and I walked out. When I came home, my working clothes was found burnt.

 

Honestly is this what marriages go through? It feels as if I was dealing with a horrible step-mother and not a wife, not the same woman I met years ago.

 

It seems her mood swings seem to be getting worst and there is no improvement. However, one guy friend told me this is a typical stage some women go through and it will go away in time. Will it?

 

I think she does these stuff and might be capable of one day taking it on me (well she has several times, recently gotten into my face while yelling) because she knows I won't hurt her. It's the way I was raised. I'm I overeacting and this will go away, get out of her system or will it stay this way?

[creighton0123]

Bob,

 

Don't be fooling yourself. Her burning your clothes, her getting in your face and screaming, throwing objects, and even perhaps pushing or making you worry that she will react with physical violence IS ABSOLUTELY domestic violence.

 

To get into someone's face and start screaming is not a response of anger or frustration, but one of rage. Be careful and don't let it escalate. Wife to husband DV is very rarely reported, but it can spell disaster for everyone involved.

 

If her reactions commonly involve rage and you want to save the marriage, you may both need some level of independent and joint counseling. Read up on it and talk to someone.

[ScornedBob]

Bob,

 

Don't be fooling yourself. Her burning your clothes, her getting in your face and screaming, throwing objects, and even perhaps pushing or making you worry that she will react with physical violence IS ABSOLUTELY domestic violence.

I never thought about it but now I'm questioning this whole marriage. This is definitely not the woman I met years ago. The troubles began 1 month after getting married (we have only been married for 6 months).

 

To get into someone's face and start screaming is not a response of anger or frustration, but one of rage. Be careful and don't let it escalate. Wife to husband DV is very rarely reported, but it can spell disaster for everyone involved.

 

If her reactions commonly involve rage and you want to save the marriage, you may both need some level of independent and joint counseling. Read up on it and talk to someone.

During her rages it feels as if she really hates me or is about to do something. I wanted to have a child with her next year but I'm having second thoughts about it.

A couple hours ago I encountered another one of her crazy episodic mood. This time while yelling she said something about making her feel like slapping me in the face.

I tried reasoning with her several times about her mood swings incrementing recently and how it offends/hurts me everything horrible things are said out but she either turns it around making it seen as if I caused it or changes the topic.