AlisaMarie Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Hi everyone, for those of you that were following my story, I hit 21 days today! Week 1- in bed crying... hating the world... hating myself Week 2- same as week 1, but able to get up and eat... and managed some friend time. Week 3- Out with friends, shopping... having fun... meeting new people. I really have made progress. However, I had a little downfall a couple days ago... he called and texted me. It just drove me crazy because I didn't know what he wanted or why he did. Ya see... I ignored it! Even though I would love for him to confess his undying love to me and make everything better, he isn't... and didn't. I have a feeling the text was just a mere "check in." Seriously, if it were important... wouldn't he have stated what he needed in the first text or tried again? I don't know... what does everyone think?
Leandro Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Seriously, if it were important... wouldn't he have stated what he needed in the first text or tried again? That's right! And good job on 3 weeks!!
paleblue Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 First, congrats on making it 21 days. I also bet too it was just a check-in text to see if you would respond, which really doesnt change anything. If he had something important to say he probably would have said something like, hey can we talk. ?
Author AlisaMarie Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 That's right! And good job on 3 weeks!! Thank you Leandro! You have been very supportive!
Author AlisaMarie Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 First, congrats on making it 21 days. I also bet too it was just a check-in text to see if you would respond, which really doesnt change anything. If he had something important to say he probably would have said something like, hey can we talk. ? Thank you! It's like I am coming off of drugs or something, ya know? But seriously, if I get something worthy of responding to... I might, I might not ... but a "you sleeping?" text doesn't convince me that he has changed, or even wants me back... so why torture myself? He can check in with his friends, family, and new cow... no need to check on me... I am doing fine!
WTRanger Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Stay strong! You need to use your best judgment if and when he contacts you. It has to be extremely sincere and not just fishing. His "You awake" text was just fishing. 3 weeks isn't long enough for him to make a lasting change.
Author AlisaMarie Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 Stay strong! You need to use your best judgment if and when he contacts you. It has to be extremely sincere and not just fishing. His "You awake" text was just fishing. 3 weeks isn't long enough for him to make a lasting change. Right WT! I keep playing scenarios in my head of what it could have been. But I am certain that if was anything important... he would have come out and asked.. for example: Did I get any mail? How have you been? Are you writing on blogs and making fun of my new cow... I mean girlfriend? ha! but sure... he just wanted a reaction. I am thinking if it happens again, and the attempt has some girth- I will tell him I love him too, but I need time right now because I am enjoying being single. I will also tell him if he really loves me, it will work out in the long run...k? bye bye. Idk, he could have just been drunk dialing and regretted it the next day... so whatever... I need to stop analyzing everything!
paleblue Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 "you sleeping?" That's it? Totally Lame. Good call ignoring that one!
shocked_confused Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Hi everyone, for those of you that were following my story, I hit 21 days today! Week 1- in bed crying... hating the world... hating myself Week 2- same as week 1, but able to get up and eat... and managed some friend time. Week 3- Out with friends, shopping... having fun... meeting new people. I really have made progress. However, I had a little downfall a couple days ago... he called and texted me. It just drove me crazy because I didn't know what he wanted or why he did. Ya see... I ignored it! Even though I would love for him to confess his undying love to me and make everything better, he isn't... and didn't. I have a feeling the text was just a mere "check in." Seriously, if it were important... wouldn't he have stated what he needed in the first text or tried again? I don't know... what does everyone think? Congratulations on making it this far! I'm at 30 days now and it feels great! Yayy for us! I agree with you that it probably was a "check in" text. I would just keep on ignoring as you have been. And you are absolutely right, he would have tried again if it was something really important that he wanted to talk about. For sure. So just keep doing what you're doing and live on My ex hasn't tried contacting me in a month and I haven't tried contacting him and don't plan to, not even for Christmas/New Years. I'm still wondering what I'll do if he texts me when he's home for the holidays, but I'm aiming towards IGNORE. lol..
LoveAintEverything Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 It has been almost a year this coming Jan that me and my ex broke up after 5 years and the only thing that got my mind off of him was no contact what so ever.......you have to do it if you are moving on....it has helped me dramatically......I mean i still think about him and stuff...but I could only imagine if I did have contact...and how I would be feeling...probably like **** and I would never get over it
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