Don't know if I'm ready to see her again...

[SimonSerenade]

So I haven't been in contact with my ex since the beginning of November, She's contacted me twice since then by email, I've ignored both attempts, Today my mum came round and told me my ex would be coming down to visit us on Christmas day with our son, I haven't a clue about what this mean's and it's got me rather puzzled, We had agree'd to pick him up in the evening and he'd stay Christmas night so why is she insisting on coming down to see my family on Christmas day?, I know better than to think she has reconciliation on her mind, I just feel I need some perspective, I don't feel I'm ready to see her again and have her in my life, I'm in a dark place at the moment, Not so much emotionally but as far as she's concerned the hate for her has got to the point where I'd sooner her not be in my life all together, I want nothing from her and want nothing to do with her, She's not the person I remember and it's taken me this long to get to a place of realisation where I loved the person she was but I know now that I can never love the person she is now, Any input would be greatly appreciated

[dk.bnz.chi]

you hating her shows that you still care about her.to what extend?,i don't know

 

if you meet her and you'll be grumpy it's bad for you,if you meet her and act happy it's bad for you.

 

i suggest to have mum pick your son up,tell her to ask your ex politely not to come to visit the family since you'll be there and it'll be an awkward situation for everybody. simple

 

you won't look like a wuss this way,you show that you want to see your son but don't care to see her...hope this helps

 

keep smiling my friend,your young,be the best for the ones that love and deserve your kindness

[mgene15]

man that's a toughy, well she's most likely always going to be in your life to an extent because of the child you had together, I'd say just act cool, and even no you say your not ready, brace yourself... If you can basically raise a child by yourself(high five), I'm thinkin you can see your ex when she visits. relax, hope all goes well buddy!

[poorguy]

I agree having had a child together and all. If I remember you have the baby? She is going to be a part of your life and well probably your families as well. I have a question though. Does she even really see you baby? If she doesn't she's one of the very very few woamn who can stay away from their baby and something is really wrong with her

[SimonSerenade]

My son lives with her, I wish to god it was the other way around mind, All I ever wanted was a wife and a child in life, Would be justified if she left but my son got to stay with me, At least then I wouldn't feel like I've been punished for a selfish decision on her part but I geuss that's just life for you unfortunately.

 

I'd never talk to her badly or be funny with her, Despite all the pain she put me through I still can't help but be nice to her, I geuss that's just who I am with everyone, Friendly and polite is the only way I roll, Still dosen't mean I'm anywhere near ready to seeing her again without falling to bits lol.

 

I'll ask my mum to have a word with her about not coming down, Naturally if she's down to visit my family I'll just steer clear of my mums house and pray to god she dosen't come dawning on my door step aswell.

 

Just wish I knew what all this meant =/

[mgene15]

well, the clock is tickin... soon enough you'll find out...and remember what doesn't kill you , will only make you stronger . cheers!