Jump to content

Men, do you give up too easily?


While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

Posted

You are putting a huge burden on any woman who decides she likes you enough to contemplate a relationship with you: your entire happiness and sense of well being, and she has to rescue you from depression too.

 

How can anyone do that for you? You MUST learn to do it yourself.

 

Do you have male friends? Do you have more than just one female friend? Do you do anything social that's non-dating? Video games and anime can be pretty isolating.

Posted
Thank you for your posts Jeff. It's obvious you put in a lot of thought.

Just want to help :)

 

You are exactly right. I'm trying to find the missing piece.

 

That's not something I can just hear and accept. I need to find out for myself. Some thing's, people just need to experience to understand.

I understand that

 

If a girl is not the answer, then I'll at least know that. Then I can look for the real issue.

I think you'll find that you need to be ok with you

 

Then I'm screwed because I can't stop being needy when I need something.

Yeah, but you can ACT like you don't need it. Unless these women are mindreaders, you should be able to hide the neediness

 

As for having a backbone, I do not let women use, push me around or disrespect me.

Sorry...but you do....at least you did via text with that one woman. When you said "Well, that's all I can expect" after she basically said you were 1000th on her list for that weekend, you showed her that you have zero respect for yourself. Having a backbone is all about having an attitude of "I don't need you, you need me" and I'm afraid that you showed that particular girl at that instant you had no backbone, not that it really mattered because she had already blown you off

 

At any rate, I really do wish you luck man.....I hope you can be happy

×
×
  • Create New...