HappyAtLast Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 To be fair, however, while most times, at first the spouse is a sobbing ball of pain, that is generally short lasted. Regardless of the state of the marriage, that often happens. Once things have calmed down, the situation sometimes changes. I am in no way minimizing the pain of a BS. Not at all. I am saying that the reaction of the BS is generally the same, regardless of the true state of the marital relationship.
neveragain1 Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 What makes me angry is those WS who after going back to their M, begin a full denial and minimizing their AP. During the A they say : - I love OP, I'm crazy for OP. - I'm torn, I miss OP, I want to be with him/her. Once they go back to BS the very same WS says : - OP would have been a terrible partner / husband / wife - OP and I were very different - OP and I couldn't reasonably have a LTR. - Hubby/W is so much better.. If OP was so terrible why did they need to keep the A ? (sometimes for years). IMO : 1- either they want to convince themselves that they have made the "good choice", pure conscious dishonesty, in other words lying to themselves. 2 - or they "project" their guilt on OP shoulders to feel better and less guilty. what do you expect? they are liars all around.
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