lylli Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I have been separated for at least 4 months after an 8 year relationship and 3 year marriage. I moved out for the first 3 months of the separation and in the last couple of weeks, i have moved back in due to financial obligations. We have agreed to a certain amount of money per fortnight that i would transfer into our joint account for the home loan, which i have no problem doing, but i am now being pressured to contribute more. I am a casual at my work place and therefore only get paid for the hours that i do. Some weeks will be more and others will be less. My ex earns more than double what i am on and still complains about needing more money. I am at my whits end trying to sort this out without having to seek legal advice as i clearly can not afford to do so. I am also trying to save some money so that i can move on with my life. Once i am gone, he will be left with the car, most of the furniture and anything else that i am not taking. I will be starting from scratch as i am moving states and dont feel the need to take everything as it was my decision to end the marriage and i am trying to make this as easy for him as possible. But somehow i feel that i am only making this worse for myself. I really need some advice as to what i could or should be doing. If i packed my bags and just left, what would be the repercussions? Any advice would be great or just some tips on how to survive until i can be free from it all would be greatly appreciated.
goingstrong Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 You need top consult an attorney in your country as the laws vary greatly from place to place. I would like to assume that the only Brisbane is in Australia.
delajoonal Posted December 18, 2010 Posted December 18, 2010 my xh and i tried to live under the same roof at first, of course due to finacial issues.. but, i was going thru his computer and pockets and was ripping my hair out, as i found movie tickets, receipts, everything that was proof of his EA gone PA ...so i kicked him out...3 times total...by the 3rd time i just couldnt' take any of it anymore...neither could he...money was less of an issue then our sanity. then i finally just moved out of our marital home all together as well... these transitions r so emotionally draining and difficult...and then add money problems to the equation...i am sorry, it's an awful time. so sorry u r going thru this...do consult someone professionally, there are alot that work on contingency...either an attorney, counselor, etc... good luck to u and please keep posting, would like to know how u r doing? take care...
robf1971 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I have been separated for at least 4 months after an 8 year relationship and 3 year marriage. I moved out for the first 3 months of the separation and in the last couple of weeks, i have moved back in due to financial obligations. We have agreed to a certain amount of money per fortnight that i would transfer into our joint account for the home loan, which i have no problem doing, but i am now being pressured to contribute more. I am a casual at my work place and therefore only get paid for the hours that i do. Some weeks will be more and others will be less. My ex earns more than double what i am on and still complains about needing more money. I am at my whits end trying to sort this out without having to seek legal advice as i clearly can not afford to do so. I am also trying to save some money so that i can move on with my life. Once i am gone, he will be left with the car, most of the furniture and anything else that i am not taking. I will be starting from scratch as i am moving states and dont feel the need to take everything as it was my decision to end the marriage and i am trying to make this as easy for him as possible. But somehow i feel that i am only making this worse for myself. I really need some advice as to what i could or should be doing. If i packed my bags and just left, what would be the repercussions? Any advice would be great or just some tips on how to survive until i can be free from it all would be greatly appreciated. BGP. Big girl panties, your a grown adult, get a better job. It there are no kids involved you don't owe each other anything.
delajoonal Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 BGP. Big girl panties, your a grown adult, get a better job. It there are no kids involved you don't owe each other anything. ok, EWWW! nice advice robf1971! did u even read the OP??? and in these times, i can't even believe u would just say, "grow up and get a better job" Y so harsh? cause SHE is the one that wants to leave the marriage? maybe U, robf1971 have some displaced anger issues??? sorry, but i dont' recall in EVER seeing a post so harsh and no compassion.
robf1971 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 ok, EWWW! nice advice robf1971! did u even read the OP??? and in these times, i can't even believe u would just say, "grow up and get a better job" Y so harsh? cause SHE is the one that wants to leave the marriage? maybe U, robf1971 have some displaced anger issues??? sorry, but i dont' recall in EVER seeing a post so harsh and no compassion. No one ever knows the full story on these posts, so I'm just being impartial. No owned home, no kids, she wants out? He wants out? what does it matter. Sadly part of separation is moving on and starting a new life. She isn't obligated to him, he isn't obligated to her. Hmm do I have displaced anger issues, maybe
m2s Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 i am in Adelaide. My ex left us - he has rented a house and contributes NOTHING to our mortgage or household expenses (even with a child) You can walk away without any repercussions.
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