2 yr relationship, she's seeing other people, still contacting me

[chefkr]

Ok guys, first time poster here.

First for some background info:

 

Girlfriend of 2+ years broke up with me about 3 months ago (she’s 22, I’m 27). Went NC for about a week or two and then we started talking again for about a month. Still going out, sleeping at each others’ places (sex twice), talking to each other almost every night before bed etc.

 

This goes on for about a month when I see her one night at a bar basically just her and another guy. We’re very cordial and talk. Hell, I even shake hands with the guy. I know the writing is on the wall at that point but she still contacts me. Nothing huge, just random texts saying she saw me on her way to work etc, and comments on my Facebook page. Since our contact was definitely mutual for the month before that, I take some time and call her last week to tell her, “look, I love to hear from you, no doubt, but it’s VERY confusing to me when I’m seeing you around other guys and you still want to contact me.” Bear in mind, this is COMPLETELY civil and respectful tone. She agrees and basically says that she understands and that she is sorry, and maybe should think about others instead of just herself sometimes, and apparently I don't know the whole story. Then, she goes on to say we should talk about things in person. So here I am.

 

 

She’s been waiting on a new phone because hers got washed and told me when she got back up and running would call me and we could set something up to go talk about things. That was over a week ago, but she was very sincere when she mentioned it. This weekend she emails me and says that she was totally going to call but that her phone was still having issues getting activated and even asked me for some assistance with that. Today she finally got it working and I’m pretty much still waiting. Like an idiot I called her tonight but didn’t get an answer. I was smart(?) enough to just leave it at that, no VM, no text etc. I figure the missed call is there and that’s enough damage for one night.

 

 

 

So what do I have to look forward to if we do talk? If she was settled in with someone new, why not just tell me last week that there isn’t much to talk about, and that she is seeing other people? She knows me well enough to know I’m respectful of any decision. (One of the perks of our relationship was that we never fought or argued and were really never afraid of any concerns the other had.) So I’m not sure what the whole needing to talk in person thing is. We are still split technically so to me there isn’t much to say, definitely nothing more than could be accomplished in the couple of minutes we spoke last week.

 

 

Thoughts?

 

 

Also she is graduating this weekend. Figured I'd go because she came to mine, but just stay long enough to see her walk and take off because I don't want any awkward moments.

 

 

Thanks guys (and girls).

[Med]

This goes on for about a month when I see her one night at a bar basically just her and another guy. We’re very cordial and talk. Hell, I even shake hands with the guy. I know the writing is on the wall at that point but she still contacts me. .

 

 

No offense but I'm gonna be blunt to you. You're a door matt who has no self respect simply as that.

 

You need to cease contact with this lady ASAP and move on for YOUR own good, if they want to be with you then they'll be JUST with you only. What I'm trying to say to you is YOU need to start SELF RESPECTING your self "DON'T ACCEPT BREAD CRUMBS"...Why the hell do you want to hang around a lady who seeks other men?

[strangeways]

No offense but I'm gonna be blunt to you. You're a door matt who has no self respect simply as that.

 

You need to cease contact with this lady ASAP and move on for YOUR own good, if they want to be with you then they'll be JUST with you only. What I'm trying to say to you is YOU need to start SELF RESPECTING your self "DON'T ACCEPT BREAD CRUMBS"...Why the hell do you want to hang around a lady who seeks other men?

 

Harsh, but so true. Listen to Med.

[Hhhh]

Strung you along bro... She found someone else so she's ready to cut you out

[alimpo83]

Yes, she's been using you. I can relate to that, even your age is the same mine and my ex. If she likes the guy, she won't contact you more; if she doesn't she'll come back until she finds a new one. It's harsh, but it's true, believe me I know.

[Chi townD]

Dude! Move the hell on! She's out having fun and a good time and you're sitting at home wondering if she's gonna call. You see the picture here?

 

Start enjoying life! She had her chance and missed out! Start planning little get away weekends for yourself! Start going out and having a good time for yourself. So, if one time she wants to meet up and talk in person, you can say, " well, you would have to get on a plane and get to Key West, because you're partying up on Duvall St.!!!!

[whammy]

My advice on getting her to come back to you.

 

you need to start treating her like a booty call. I guarantee if you start only calling her at every friday at 2 am drunk and ONLY contacting her for sex late at night than she will start having feelings for you again....and if you start hitting on her friends when you see them out, i guarantee it would work in your favor.

I know it sounds dumb but i guarantee it will work.