Jeff M Stevens Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 We tell guys on our radio show all the time that some of the best ways to meet women are: *Online dating *Dance classes/cooking classes/other types of classes that have lots of women in a relaxed environment *Speed dating *Weddings where the guy preferably can get introduced by either the bride or groom (or their friends) Some of the worst places... *Nightclubs *At random in public *Work Ladies, please agree, disagree, weigh in with your experiences and what has worked or not worked for guys to meet you. I look forward to your responses
january2010 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Ladies, please agree, disagree, weigh in with your experiences and what has worked or not worked for guys to meet you. Why not phrase the question in terms of asking guys about their successful locations for meeting women? As a 'lady', I find it much easier to articulate from the viewpoint of where I've had success in meeting guys rather than where guys have had success in meeting me. I know it's essentially the same thing but approaching the issue from different angles, however, the phrasing adds an extra step of processing for me.
Author Jeff M Stevens Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 Agreed! So, tell me where you have met guys then
Imajerk17 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 (edited) I have actually met women in the grocery store and gone on dates with them. My experience meeting women in random places in public during the day is that there is some art to it. I've gotten women enthusiastically giving me their number (and while we were still in front of each other I would call the number she gave me so that she had mine) and I walked away thinking I was pretty slick. But there is more to it than that though. Most of the time in fact, when I tried to call her 24--48 hours later... nothing. I'd get put to voicemail and then I wouldn't get a call back. I would try a second time and just hear more crickets. This is what I think, happened: When we met in say, the supermarket, we talk for only 30 seconds, due to the logistics of the environment. So when we leave each other's presence after that encounter, she realizes that she doesn't know anything about me and so she doesn't feel comfortable calling me back or seeing me again. She got "second thoughts" that didn't work for me. A solution might be to try to set something up--try to meet for coffee right then and there or set up a meet-up, and then exchange numbers. I mean, that wouldn't be a guarantee--you might not be able to meet up at that time, and people do flake. But it is harder to blow off a date than it is to just not take a phone call and tell yourself that you'll "call him back later" and then never do. Edited January 4, 2011 by Imajerk17
Knittress Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Proximity. I generally won't notice that I'm attracted to someone until I've been around them for a while. Up until that point men are just a part of the background scenery.
Stung Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I have met former real boyfriends through adult evening language and music classes, at lectures and events like gallery openings, shows and parties, through friends of friends (but never in an emotionally-charged environment like a wedding), at work, at bookstores or cafes, and once at a bar. I met my husband online dating via OkC.
Eeyore79 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Dancing classes are a good place to meet women; lots of women go by themselves or with a female friend, and there are never enough men to go around. Women who like dancing will go crazy for a man who can dance really well! Dancing classes are a terrible place to meet men though, because most men go with their girlfriend/wife; an attractive single man at a dance class is a rare and precious find!
Chocolat Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Agreed! So, tell me where you have met guys then I like to meet guys anywhere it isn't contrived. At the gym, in Whole Foods, at the bookstore, in the library, etc. I've had fun conversations waiting in line at the grocery store that have turned into dates. There is something (a lot!) to be said for meeting naturally. I can't comment on the success (or not) of online dating or speed dating as I have not tried either of these... nor have I ever been tempted. The problem with these methods (imo - and I realise I am in a minority, esp. on LS) is that they reduce people to a list of qualities and most of us are far more than the sum of our parts.
kassy Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I think to be honest I would be a little wary of a guy who went to dance classes just to meet women, rather than actually liking dancing. It would be hard to impress me I think if you were doing something you didn;t enjoy for yourself. I prefer to meet guys doing things I like doing. I've met guys through friends, at lots of different sports, online, in bars, at the supermarket etc For example, lots of guys hike, there are lots of hiking clubs. Friends have suggested I go hiking to meet some new men at different times in my life. But I HATE hiking, so why would I want to meet a guy who presumably likes it and then either have to continue to go hiking with him or tell him I HATE it... bit strange IMO
zengirl Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 We tell guys on our radio show all the time that some of the best ways to meet women are: *Online dating *Dance classes/cooking classes/other types of classes that have lots of women in a relaxed environment *Speed dating *Weddings where the guy preferably can get introduced by either the bride or groom (or their friends) Some of the worst places... *Nightclubs *At random in public *Work Ladies, please agree, disagree, weigh in with your experiences and what has worked or not worked for guys to meet you. I look forward to your responses Speed dating sounds awful to me. I've met men in all 3 of the bad places (well, bars, not nightclubs so much, but I do activities at bars, like trivia and other themed social events, which makes it more like classes/clubs) who were LTRs. I met my current BF online, but I met the one before that at a small indie style concert in a downtown venue.
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