ozziegal8 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 i put a post up on here a week ago. ive been seeing a guy from the net for 6 weeks. he has more custody than the mother they broke up 4 years go. went through bitter court custody battle. he looks after the child 4-5 times a week so only works 3 days and is on benefits. i have met the child and he likes me. my problem is that i always have to instigate catching up. he texts nearly every day so he must be keen and he has taken his profile off the site. we see each other once a week. when we first met he would text constantly this has calmed down a lot and he would text at the last minute i.e. 6pm on that night and ask me over but i couldnt as had plans or tired from work. does anyone have any suggestions? he also doesn't ask me out to his friends gatherings or has me met his family? do you think he isnt interested?
alexlakeman Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Single dad responding. He intro'ed u to his offspring, so u must mean something to him. Freinds and family? I don't consider that I have to put every woman I date "on the friends and family plan". I've dated women who on the 3rd or 4th date, they are introducing me to friends. Guess it depends, but don't think he doesn't like you b/c of this. At a certain age u just don't intro "every" woman u date to "friends and family". I don't even have friends per say; all my acquaintances are business related, not people I hang with on personal time. Maybe that's the case. "On disability" - how old is this guy? This would be d red flag. How is he going to take u out? What would d future hold? Maybe he intro'ed u to d child, so u could come over and when d child goes to sleep he can have sex with you. Myself? I'm very busy, so much so that the recent woman I dated, was suspicious if I was married, since I called her late , was busy, etc. It's called having a life; if we have too much time its bad bc we don't have a life, and if we don't have time it's bad bc we're not spending time with the woman; can't win . Personally, I only date women with kids; makes thing neater ands more understanding.
MJ2 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I'm sure he's interested in you bc he's already introduced his son to you. It's been less than two months, so I wouldn't doubt his feelings for you just bc he hasn't brought you around the rest of his Fam yet. Just go with the flow and be too needy/clingy. If you like him, just give it time without too many demands the first few months. You guys are still getting to know each other.
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 he never instigates catching up, its always me...and its only once a week. he is on single parent payment and does cash in hand job 2 days a week which is below junior wages... should i take it he isnt interested?
USCGAviator Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Well since you've known the guy for six weeks I'm sure you owe it to yourself to ask him straight up. I'm about to have a date with my first single mother so I'll see how that goes.
Author ozziegal8 Posted December 18, 2010 Author Posted December 18, 2010 he calls me this arvo acting normal, (he now calls me the day before a date as he didnt in the past and i said something about it) he was all normal. he said we could catch up tmw i.e. 7am before 3.30pm as he has sisters xmas party, i said 'so in on a time limit am i' he asked if i was upset? he jokingly said he would tell his sis he couldnt come cos i said he couldnt? what do i say tmw about all this without coming on too strong? its not about meeting the family its about the him not instigating meeting up its always me? does this mean he isn't keen?
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