Author pandagirl Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 I think it is usually pretty obvious to tell if someone's pretty or not. Whether or not that pretty person is "attractive" is a separate question, in my opinion. Again, if a pretty person isn't getting approached, then that person is either visiting the wrong crowds or is giving off a signal of being unapproachable. Just my 2 cents, though. I never get approached. So -- aside from the fact that I'm fugly -- do you think I'm one of the two things you said?
Mad Max Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 you look about 5 x 7 6'2". And my picture is in my album section, not my avatar.
In The Green Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 6'2". And my picture is in my album section, not my avatar. Am I missing something? All I see are pics of some pro athlete?
Mad Max Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Am I missing something? All I see are pics of some pro athlete? I have the album on private. I'll add you to my contacts and it should come up.
Arasae Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Huh. I don't know how much I agree with people on the "feedback" thing, but then again, when I was ten or so, I was told by another ten year old that I "had too much self esteem." xD That might still be the case. For me, I was probably eight or nine... I was examining myself in the mirror, and just decided that I was pretty and that settled it from then on. I had a TON of negative feedback in middle school and some of high school--I was totally clueless when it came to fashion, continued to dress as I had in elementary school, and didn't bathe as often as I should have (yeah, I was gross in some photos), but in spite of that, I was always confident that I was "pretty." -shrug- But then, I've always kind of lacked social awareness, so... that hasn't done me any favors, lol! I've grown up thinking that I should think highly of myself (because the converse is kind of sucky--Ugly? Stupid? Lame? I don't want to be any of those things!), and I think that has given me a lot of confidence. So whether or not I am traditionally "pretty," I feel I am attractive because I don't lack confidence like many people. I suspect I border on arrogance sometimes, but I've found that, as long as you bite your tongue instead of boasting about what you might think of yourself, then it works out alright-ish. At least, for me it has. =)
MrNate Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Most people are pretty/handsome to someone. From some of my simple (biased) observations, I can usually see that the really pretty people typically have: 1. A huge number of facebook friends, like over 700-1000+ 2. Some other things I don't feel like listing But, I would say, a simple way as a woman, to know you're pretty is if you get looks at/get asked out by guys. After thinking about this though, I then went to look in the mirror to gauge my looks. Upon looking at the results, I cried myself to sleep.
Sarah1977 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I have the album on private. I'll add you to my contacts and it should come up. Me too! Me too!
VertexSquared Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I never get approached. So -- aside from the fact that I'm fugly -- do you think I'm one of the two things you said? IMO this must be true. I'd find it really hard to believe otherwise.
Mad Max Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I think it is usually pretty obvious to tell if someone's pretty or not. Whether or not that pretty person is "attractive" is a separate question, in my opinion. Again, if a pretty person isn't getting approached, then that person is either visiting the wrong crowds or is giving off a signal of being unapproachable. Just my 2 cents, though. Pretty women will still get approached, even if they look unapproachable. They just won't be approached as much.
VertexSquared Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Pretty women will still get approached, even if they look unapproachable. They just won't be approached as much. Sure, but I think it happens a lot less often than people give credit for.
Sarah1977 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 These threads confuse me because I don't understand why women care so much. We're all going to get old and ugly, anyway, so might as well develop in other ways. I don't think the amount of men approaching you is any true signifier of beauty. I get approached by men pretty consistently and I'm not any great beauty, by any means. I'm a strictly average looking chick. *shrugs
Star Gazer Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I'm feeling not so cute today. Ugh. I'll add you to my contacts to see pics if you do the same!!
Mad Max Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 These threads confuse me because I don't understand why women care so much. We're all going to get old and ugly, anyway, so might as well develop in other ways. I don't think the amount of men approaching you is any true signifier of beauty. I get approached by men pretty consistently and I'm not any great beauty, by any means. I'm a strictly average looking chick. *shrugs Women will get approached as long as they're at least average looking. A woman that's a 5 is on a pretty similar level to a guy that's an 8-9 in terms of getting approached.
VertexSquared Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Women will get approached as long as they're at least average looking. A woman that's a 5 is on a pretty similar level to a guy that's an 8-9 in terms of getting approached. I think it also depends on what that person is doing. Is she alone? With friends? At a bar? A dance club? A library? A cafe? Is she waiting in line? Is she shopping? etc. It all changes the dynamic of what is needed to approach someone, and some situations are harder than others.
Sarah1977 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I'm feeling not so cute today. Ugh. I'll add you to my contacts to see pics if you do the same!! Who, me? Sure, but last time someone did that, it didn't turn out so well because I have a tendency to be a little overtly honest.
AD1980 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Women will get approached as long as they're at least average looking. A woman that's a 5 is on a pretty similar level to a guy that's an 8-9 in terms of getting approached. I agree,though i wouldnt even say average just form frequentign bars for years id say a women just has to be not hideous to get approached Which makes it harder for average or medicore looking Men becasue their female counterparts get way more attention and an inflated ego of where they stand
Mad Max Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I think it also depends on what that person is doing. Is she alone? With friends? At a bar? A dance club? A library? A cafe? Is she waiting in line? Is she shopping? etc. It all changes the dynamic of what is needed to approach someone, and some situations are harder than others. No doubt. I generally avoid bars and clubs because I'm not comfortable being around drunk women.
MrNate Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I think it also depends on what that person is doing. Is she alone? With friends? At a bar? A dance club? A library? A cafe? Is she waiting in line? Is she shopping? etc. It all changes the dynamic of what is needed to approach someone, and some situations are harder than others. Another good point. The amount of approchability(sp?) you keep around yourself can also affect things. I will go down on record saying that most women are in fact pretty. Simply because a lot of guys are attracted to a lot of different things.
VertexSquared Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 No doubt. I generally avoid bars and clubs because I'm not comfortable being around drunk women. Likewise. I personally enjoy dive bars, which are generally lower-key, but I've nevertheless always been really uncomfortable approaching women there.
Sarah1977 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Women will get approached as long as they're at least average looking. A woman that's a 5 is on a pretty similar level to a guy that's an 8-9 in terms of getting approached. Exactly and a woman that is a 5 can usually snag a guy in the 7-9 range, too.
VertexSquared Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 So what puts a guy in the 7+ range, out of curiosity? Sometimes I genuinely have no idea where to put myself on that numeric spectrum.
AD1980 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Exactly and a woman that is a 5 can usually snag a guy in the 7-9 range, too. To get penetrated yes long term relationship is the hard part for the 5's
MrNate Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Exactly and a woman that is a 5 can usually snag a guy in the 7-9 range, too. There's an interesting saying behind this actually. "The woman's power is through her looks. A man's power is through his mystery." In the above, 'power' refers to that essence which draws the opposite sex to them.
Mad Max Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Likewise. I personally enjoy dive bars, which are generally lower-key, but I've nevertheless always been really uncomfortable approaching women there. For me, it has nothing to do with approaching women. I feel very uncomfortable around drunk women. Exactly and a woman that is a 5 can usually snag a guy in the 7-9 range, too. For a ONS and perhaps a FWB, yes. For a relationship, no not usually. I don't give my gender that much credit. Most are very shallow as far as looks. I consider myself to be the exception, not the rule.
AD1980 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 For a ONS and perhaps a FWB, yes. For a relationship, no not usually. I don't give my gender that much credit. Most are very shallow as far as looks. I consider myself to be the exception, not the rule. That is true of women also though,most couples you see are at least pretty close in terms of attratcivness level theyres very few that arent and the extreme difference in looks are usually because the guys rich and/or powerful
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