pandagirl Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I know this is a stupid question, but seriously, how do you know if you are attractive? I really have no idea what I look like to other people.
Knittress Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I know it seems strange, but I know how you feel. I think it's when people randomly tell you that you're pretty and it happens often enough that it doesn't seem to be a one-off or them just to trying flatter you into something.
Author pandagirl Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 why are you asking? No real reason!
MrNate Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I know this is a stupid question, but seriously, how do you know if you are attractive? I really have no idea what I look like to other people. Hey, pandagirl. You're pretty.
Star Gazer Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 FWIW, although I've never seen you, I've always thought you must be a very attractive woman. I vacillate between thinking I'm pretty/cute and thinking I'm blah. I'm in the middle of one such vacillation right now.
Author pandagirl Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 (edited) FWIW, although I've never seen you, I've always thought you must be a very attractive woman. I vacillate between thinking I'm pretty/cute and thinking I'm blah. I'm in the middle of one such vacillation right now. haha, thanks SG! Maybe I'll PM you a photo. And I bet you are a foxy lady! But, people -- really -- I'm not fishing for compliments here! Just really wondering how one knows if they are attractive. I have a couple of friends who are very beautiful women, and guys hit on them all the time. Do they know they are good-looking? Yes, but it's probably because of the attention they get. As a consequence of that, they have pretty flirty personalities and are confident acting. I SELDOM have guys hitting on me. My personality is friendly, but not flirty. I know I am likable, but that has nothing to do with how I feel about my looks. I just can hold a good conversation and people find me interesting and fun to talk to. I don't exactly know what I'm getting at, but I think the opposite sex contributes a lot to our perception of our looks. Edited December 16, 2010 by pandagirl
Yer_Blues Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 This has been on my mind a lot too lately. It seems impossible to get objective feedback on physical attractiveness.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 You know youre attractive when men find random reasons to talk to you, if they dont...well ykno. Its a shame your friends that get hit on all the time dont help you out there.
runner Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 threads like this remind me of why it's great being a boy- 99.9 per cent of the time i could care less if people think i'm attractive. and for that .1 of the time, it's typically out of curiosity, boredom, being drunk, or all of the above. and then i'm back to not giving a **** after 10 minutes. licking my paws aside...i really do feel bad for girls who get all made up, go out on the town, and never get approached. although not the OP, cos she's pretty
musemaj11 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 In my opinion people are capable to judge our own attractiveness. But although its easy to rate ourselves facially, its harder to rate ourselves as a whole. I mean I have a rather ugly face. However, at 5'11 Im kind of tall and I have a proportional body. When people see a photo of me, they probably think Im 'Ewwy' or something. But when they meet me in person, I look okay.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 ... how do you know if you are attractive?... You'll catch people checking you out. I was heavy as a child and teased mercilessly. When I finally overcame that in my teens, I wasn't prepared for the total reversal of being 6'-2, eyes 'o blue and, dare I say it?, hansome. Nobody really came up to me and repaid me for the torture of being a fat child by telling me how good-looking I'd become, but living and being out in the world gave me cues from other people that I had power in my looks. It's a grand thing just know you're not a wart hog.
Leigh 87 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I would also like to know if I am attractive:( I was socially isolated for a few years, so I go tno real feedback. BUt not I am out there again socially, I know I am not model material, yet I do wonder: AM I good looking to some people? I have a good body - but my face is ugly to some, and pretty to others I do not get guys attention often when I am in public. Yet, a very hbody builder at my at my gym, who's last g/f was stunning, found me attractive when he first met me. So one very hot guy who was with a stunning 18 year old found me attractive enough to have sex with ( but not date or anything), yet not even average guys look at me or check me out? When I have been in a good mood and felt confident and felt hot, I have ahd guys look at me a few times - but only on very rare occasions. I guess I have answered my own question; I have a good body, but am not pretty enough to be all around attractive to very many men. What shame. It is SUCH a waste of a good body! It kills me when I see pretty girls who guys consider hotter than me, who are heavier than me, and do not have bodies as nice as mine:( It really is annoying, how those of us that have good bodies, are stuck with unnatractive or plain faces.
Leigh 87 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 You know youre attractive when men find random reasons to talk to you, if they dont...well ykno. Its a shame your friends that get hit on all the time dont help you out there. Guys do not find reasons to talk to me. I do not want to think that guys approaching you is how you determine wheather you are attractive. I have been called attractive by people - yet no guys approach me ever. I am not there much socially - could it be that I am notin public enough for enough guys to have the opportunity to apprpoach me? do nto work much or study ( I start Uni next year) - I HOPE that the reason guys have never approached me, is simply because I am not out in public that much. Although it is looking worse bu the second lol - I have started a casual job, and I am sure guys would have approached me by now if I was attractive.
Citizen Erased Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Whenever I ask my fiance if I'm pretty he laughs and tells me to shutup. Guess I know the answer.
Pyro Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Whenever I ask my fiance if I'm pretty he laughs and tells me to shutup. Guess I know the answer. shutup
the_dynamo Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I don't know about others but When I lost a significant amount of weight, I was surprised by how much I liked how I looked and I noticed at the same time people who I hadn't meet even before some times kidingly telling me that I was handsome. so I concluded that since I personally think I look good and others have also complemented me that I am not half bad:)
DragonSlave49 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I guess I have answered my own question; I have a good body, but am not pretty enough to be all around attractive to very many men. It really is annoying, how those of us that have good bodies, are stuck with unnatractive or plain faces. I think this is one spectrum in which guys' taste varies. For me, I really care about a woman's body. I'm not picky about faces. But being pretty is really a category that is based on what people think other people think, so if you asked me and I was answering honestly (I'd lie to my girlfriend, if I had one) I'd try to base my opinion on what most men think and probably say you weren't as attractive.
PerpetualMotion Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Guys do not find reasons to talk to me. I do not want to think that guys approaching you is how you determine wheather you are attractive. I have been called attractive by people - yet no guys approach me ever. I am not there much socially - could it be that I am notin public enough for enough guys to have the opportunity to apprpoach me? do nto work much or study ( I start Uni next year) - I HOPE that the reason guys have never approached me, is simply because I am not out in public that much. Although it is looking worse bu the second lol - I have started a casual job, and I am sure guys would have approached me by now if I was attractive. A smile can make a difference.
Author pandagirl Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 What about by the company you keep? Do you think it's true that you tend to hang around people who are on the same level of attractiveness as you?
PerpetualMotion Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 No. I hang out with people I find interesting. Attractiveness is not a requirement.
tigressA Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 What about by the company you keep? Do you think it's true that you tend to hang around people who are on the same level of attractiveness as you? I don't think so. Though it's hard to answer this question with that answer without sounding mean or self-deprecating. In situations when I've been out with some of my girlfriends, I've mostly been the only one approached.
Author pandagirl Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 Well, I guess we all know what the answer to this questions is... Post your photo on Hot Or Not. haha!
laRubiaBonita Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 i often wonder if i am pretty too. although, i do get approached by both men and women- but i think it is more because i smile a lot and i think i look approachable. but am i pretty? i do not think i am ugly. and i too lost a tremendous amount of weight in my later HS years; i was also teased and picked on ALOT growing up. as i was losing weight i did get more attention from guys, i got my first boyfriend, etc...... and that proved to me that weight matters. unfortunately i do still see my self as that fat girl i used to be, it took me a long time to actuually accept the attention i was recieving might actually be real and not a cruel joke.
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