CelticCaramel Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 My boyfriend and I have been going out for about three months and we're crazy about each other. I already knew that he was prone to depression and unhappiness. For the past week or so he had been acting a little more down than usual, but didn't show any interest in breaking up and was as affectionate as ever, told me he loved me, etc etc. He also told one of my friends that he "wanted to try something else" but when she asked if he meant "somebody" else, he said no, I don't want to be with anybody else. On Friday he told me he could tell he was getting depressed and didn't know how to talk about it. At first he said he wanted to stay together but would probably need more space. Then he said he didn't want to drag me through the depression and when I asked him if he was breaking up with me he could only say I'm sorry over and over and then basically ran away. My friends have talked to him just a little to offer him support and he was very upset and confused, saying I made him happier than he's ever been but that he was worried about me and didn't want to hurt me with his depression and only knew how to deal with it on his own. I saw him for the first time yesterday; we passed each other and I smiled and said hi, trying to be supportive, but he couldn't even look at me, and when he tried to smile back he looked like he was about to burst into tears. Last night I gave him a letter (indirectly) detailing that I can handle his depression and can give him whatever he needs, if that's space or whatever. I love him so much and don't want to break up and I don't think he really wants to either but that's the only way he knows how to deal with this. I don't think he's ever gotten help for his depression. In the letter I told him I wanted to talk before we left for winter break (we're in college, and I'm leaving Monday). Today I talked to a friend he's been hanging out with a lot since our break-up and she said he didn't tell her any of that. Rather he told her something along the lines that we didn't go out and do enough stuff, when in the past two weeks he has been backing out of doing a lot of stuff that we were supposed to do. She said that they have barely talked about what happened and rather have just been going out partying etc. I'm so confused. I still love him and want to get back together but he won't even talk to me. I am doing my best not to mess anything up. Is there hope? Thanks for reading.
Leandro Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Today I talked to a friend he's been hanging out with a lot since our break-up and she said he didn't tell her any of that. Rather he told her something along the lines that we didn't go out and do enough stuff, when in the past two weeks he has been backing out of doing a lot of stuff that we were supposed to do. She said that they have barely talked about what happened and rather have just been going out partying etc. So first he told her a different story, meaning that he either lied to you or her. IDK, I think that maybe he was growing feelings for this "friend" since she went out and partied. But I really hope that's not the case. And if he was depressed, why would he be going out and partying? Doesn't make since.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 nope, none of it makes any sense. Assuming youre telling your side accurately, just leave him alone. He obviously doesnt want o be around you, and you dont want to be around someone who doesnt want to be around you. Dont worry about hope, theres nothing you can do. He obviously has something in mind that he wont tell you. Best thing you can do is stay far away from him, and dont let him play with your head.
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