Mary Shadows Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 MEN: What qualities do you find endearing in a woman?
Yer_Blues Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Combination of honesty, good communication skills (lack of passive aggressive behavior), confidence, caring without being controlling, and high sex drive. That's how I would make my imaginary superhuman female. She would probably make sense too
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Author Mary Shadows Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 Combination of honesty, good communication skills (lack of passive aggressive behavior), confidence, caring without being controlling, and high sex drive. That's how I would make my imaginary superhuman female. She would probably make sense too opps my bad..woop... if you're interested, how do you make it known? OM, feel free to post too
Author Mary Shadows Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 tig ol' bitties I think you mean big breasts? Good luck with that!
Surrealist Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 A really cute face and when the girl smiles at you with that kind of shy submissive look, I can't think of the word that describes it right now? A girl with a really cute face did just that the other day at the gym, only problem is she has a boyfriend. But her smile was very endearing. :love:
musemaj11 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 All men want mainly two things: 1. Attractiveness (which is relative) 2. Compatible personality The rest are secondary. You can live under a bridge or raised by wolves in the jungle, if you met those criteria, a man would give a relationship with you a chance.
runner Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 aside from the usual traits that i find attractive...i find flaws and imperfections to be particularly endearing. and that could be anything- 'two left feet', missing a toe (true story), depression, misscarriage, divorce, etc. it all reminds me that i'm dealing with a real person with a very real history.
MrNate Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 When she shows passion over something. When she shows passion. When she can make me laugh. (huge one, because im a funny guy.)
Feelin Frisky Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 MEN: What qualities do you find endearing in a woman? - non-competitive but witty and able to roll with my wiles - can lead me to understand what she wants with fair cues and prompts - patience - must NOT be a Republican
Jeff M Stevens Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Clinically sane, giving, fun, flexible personality, intelligent, kind, modest, and self-reliant
DragonSlave49 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I could sit there and give all the boring answers like ... -- I'm looking for a girl who's kind. -- I'm looking for a girl who's independent. -- A girl who's honest and respectful towards others. Blah, blah, blah. I don't care what type of job she has, I don't care how much money she makes, I don't care if she's an outdoorsy type of girl. None of that stuff really matters. Two primary things I want to know from a woman: Is she attractive? And is she's very slutty in the bedroom? That's it. There's really nothing else I look for in a woman. Men want sex. Lots of it. If you give him lots of it, then he really doesn't care what type of personality you have, as long as you don't nag him and gain weight. I like girls who don't "no" a lot. And I know that many other guys do, too. To me, it doesn't matter how intelligent she thinks she is. None of that is going to add to my life. I don't look for women who I can discuss politics, or the solar system, or sports with. Although if she knows about sports, then I'm cool with that, but it's not necessary. I'm not looking for a girl who can fix things with her bare hands such as the sink. Men want hotness and easy access. Men want women who look good, smell good, and who's breath isn't repulsive. Men want women who want to let their inner sluttiness come out when they are behind closed doors. When I meet a woman, I'm hoping she's a slut. Men don't want to come home from a hard day's work and debate with a woman. We don't care if you like the Backstreet Boys, N'Sync, 98 Degrees, or Vanilla Ice, or the pop stars of today like Lady Gaga and Ke$ha. If you can put your left leg at the 10, and your right leg at the 2, then everything else should fall into place. And if all that makes me a pig, then oink oink, baby! I guess I'm the other guy here. I like women who are educated, skinny, empathic, and willing to take the initiative. Different strokes for different folks right? So, in order, I like women who are educated, that is to say have a broad knowledge base. They tend to be intelligent, but I don't find women attractive if they aren't well read. I find a lot of women who are smart but have basically only read fiction, and aren't really interested in ideas. For me, that's a deal breaker. There's a certain set of common beliefs that I think I would have to have to really enjoy being with someone, and that kind of girl wouldn't even know what those concepts are. This is really the most important thing because otherwise we aren't speaking the same language. I don't usually find overweight girls attractive. This is just a fact about me, and I won't try to defend it on any particular grounds. There are exceptions, and I've dated a girl who was overweight. It is my belief that anyone who has a healthy diet will not be overweight, so I don't find this belief particularly prejudicial. Empathy is the third category, and by that I mean that I don't find cruel or self centered girls attractive. I am an extremely nonjudgmental person. If someone insults someone else in front of me, I can't help but think of how that must feel, and it makes me sad. I also depend on my girl for emotional support. I believe someone has to actually care about people in general in order to truly care about any particular person. I also can't perform well as a lover if I feel that my performance is being judged. For me, sex is about who I am with, not how I'm doing it. Honestly, I've tried lots of different positions and they are all the same . But the situation before and after sex really makes a difference. Finally, I don't feel loved if I am always the person who takes the first step. I want a girl who starts kissing me when we are watching a movie. I want a girl who does a nice, random thing for me. Genuine attraction is sexual. If I'm the one begging for sex, I might as well be masturbating.
Yer_Blues Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I guess I'm the other guy here. I like women who are educated, skinny, empathic, and willing to take the initiative. Different strokes for different folks right? So, in order, I like women who are educated, that is to say have a broad knowledge base. They tend to be intelligent, but I don't find women attractive if they aren't well read. I find a lot of women who are smart but have basically only read fiction, and aren't really interested in ideas. For me, that's a deal breaker. There's a certain set of common beliefs that I think I would have to have to really enjoy being with someone, and that kind of girl wouldn't even know what those concepts are. This is really the most important thing because otherwise we aren't speaking the same language. I don't usually find overweight girls attractive. This is just a fact about me, and I won't try to defend it on any particular grounds. There are exceptions, and I've dated a girl who was overweight. It is my belief that anyone who has a healthy diet will not be overweight, so I don't find this belief particularly prejudicial. Empathy is the third category, and by that I mean that I don't find cruel or self centered girls attractive. I am an extremely nonjudgmental person. If someone insults someone else in front of me, I can't help but think of how that must feel, and it makes me sad. I also depend on my girl for emotional support. I believe someone has to actually care about people in general in order to truly care about any particular person. I also can't perform well as a lover if I feel that my performance is being judged. For me, sex is about who I am with, not how I'm doing it. Honestly, I've tried lots of different positions and they are all the same . But the situation before and after sex really makes a difference. Finally, I don't feel loved if I am always the person who takes the first step. I want a girl who starts kissing me when we are watching a movie. I want a girl who does a nice, random thing for me. Genuine attraction is sexual. If I'm the one begging for sex, I might as well be masturbating. What you describe is almost 1:1 with my feelings on it. Have you ever met one of these though? I don't think they exist.
dispatch3d Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 women have positive qualities? note to self.... be nicer
mr.dream merchant Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Attractive, intelligent, physically active in spare time, not a bitch, mature, honest, and most important of all..not a slut/attention whore. I live in South Florida, so these kind of women don't exist here.
Author Mary Shadows Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 A really cute face and when the girl smiles at you with that kind of shy submissive look, I can't think of the word that describes it right now? A girl with a really cute face did just that the other day at the gym, only problem is she has a boyfriend. But her smile was very endearing. :love: well I am sure you will find someone who is great for you!
Author Mary Shadows Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 aside from the usual traits that i find attractive...i find flaws and imperfections to be particularly endearing. and that could be anything- 'two left feet', missing a toe (true story), depression, misscarriage, divorce, etc. it all reminds me that i'm dealing with a real person with a very real history. You touched on what I was basically asking. Men who see flaws in women see them as real, and honest? What about a touch of "craziness" - like anxiety, and being akward?
Surrealist Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 well I am sure you will find someone who is great for you! Well thankyou, I hope so.
Author Mary Shadows Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 I could sit there and give all the boring answers like ... -- I'm looking for a girl who's kind. -- I'm looking for a girl who's independent. -- A girl who's honest and respectful towards others. Blah, blah, blah. I don't care what type of job she has, I don't care how much money she makes, I don't care if she's an outdoorsy type of girl. None of that stuff really matters. Two primary things I want to know from a woman: Is she attractive? And is she's very slutty in the bedroom? That's it. There's really nothing else I look for in a woman. Men want sex. Lots of it. If you give him lots of it, then he really doesn't care what type of personality you have, as long as you don't nag him and gain weight. I like girls who don't "no" a lot. And I know that many other guys do, too. To me, it doesn't matter how intelligent she thinks she is. None of that is going to add to my life. I don't look for women who I can discuss politics, or the solar system, or sports with. Although if she knows about sports, then I'm cool with that, but it's not necessary. I'm not looking for a girl who can fix things with her bare hands such as the sink. Men want hotness and easy access. Men want women who look good, smell good, and who's breath isn't repulsive. Men want women who want to let their inner sluttiness come out when they are behind closed doors. When I meet a woman, I'm hoping she's a slut. Men don't want to come home from a hard day's work and debate with a woman. We don't care if you like the Backstreet Boys, N'Sync, 98 Degrees, or Vanilla Ice, or the pop stars of today like Lady Gaga and Ke$ha. If you can put your left leg at the 10, and your right leg at the 2, then everything else should fall into place. And if all that makes me a pig, then oink oink, baby! Hmm, well not all men are this way. I feel that this is a boys way of looking at relationships. Meaning that you're probably not mature enough, and you are perhaps lacking self -esteem. Good luck looking for the girl who abuses her body! Perhaps you would be great with some strippers!! Woop
Pfiend101 Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Honesty. I have yet to find a woman who has been honest. I dont believe all women are dishonest anymore. It just rips my heart out when I trust someone then find out they are lying/ cheating.
USCGAviator Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 I'm attracted to happy emotionally healthy women. I'm always happy even on those bad days. An optimistic woman with a sense of humor is a gold mine in my book...and bed.
Cracker Jack Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 I really love kind women. When the woman is kind, it just makes me feel...I dunno, more relaxed and adventurous. It's the exact opposite when the woman is kinda crazy, which I've unfortunately dealt with awhile back. I also love honest women--absolutely can't stand inconsistent women. Physically, pretty feet are a huge turn-on for me:love: Really, I just want a nice woman. I don't ask for much.
runner Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 You touched on what I was basically asking. Men who see flaws in women see them as real, and honest? What about a touch of "craziness" - like anxiety, and being akward? if i wanted a women without any of those things you mentioned, with even just the tiniest bit, i may as well resign myself to being single forever and quit dating altogether. if anything, i like being that man- her special man- who can make her calm and feel safe.
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