bitteorca Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Got a text off her today saying she misses me in a moment of weakness. I was quite shocked, she hasn't shown any signs of weakness since it happened really. She did admit that this is how she deals with it though, the whole no communication thing. I replied after a while just saying i miss you too, but nothing else. I'm not going to read too much in to it, not going to build up any chance of reconciliation or anything, I don't think that will happen....but it is nice to know she at least cares and that she thinks about it, and that she has moments of weakness...I kind of knew she did and was hiding it, but good to know she has shown it to me, even if it's just a speckle!
dng Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Stay strong bro. They say things like that but then the next day they hope you wont reply... and so on. Let it go...
mgene15 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 well... it's good and bad i think. good that she still cares, but bad that she contacted you, cuz it has you thinkin about her again
Author bitteorca Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 well... it's good and bad i think. good that she still cares, but bad that she contacted you, cuz it has you thinkin about her again Yeah true, I am thinking about her now...but I am genuinely just happy that she cares...I think I knew deep down that she cared, but good that she has shown it, and she has had a weak moment, because all she has shown me so far is a wall she has put up for herself. Not really been NC. Been in contact for various reasons...not contact just to chat...mostly things we have both done that we have each disapproved of, if that makes sense. So mostly arguing! Never a 'how are you' kind of contact. This is the first out the blue contact. We split up about 3 weeks ago, and were only going out with each other for around 2 months, known each other for around 3 months, so not long
voels Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I'm not sure if it's a good thing though. That's what I'm expecting from my ex of 2+ years. Two months now, new news. Zero.
Author bitteorca Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 I'm not sure if it's a good thing though. That's what I'm expecting from my ex of 2+ years. Two months now, new news. Zero. I think as long as I don't get excited about the prospect of reconciliation (not sure whether I want one any more anyway) then it is a good thing, just on the basis that at least I know she cares and misses me. If I did read too much in to it, and thought 'ooo this is my chance!!!!' then that would be a bad thing. At the end of the day, I just text her back very simply saying that I missed her too, and that was it. I didn't ask her whether she wanted to talk etc, so I think I did OK - just let her know that I care as well without coming across as begging or needy...which I am not, as like I said I'm not sure whether I would want the relationship back anyway
J0N Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Hey man, I think you did a pretty decent job. With that said, you should just delete the text and forget about it. Eliminate the temptation to contact her. At least your ex wasn't totally stone cold like mine...
Author bitteorca Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 Thanks for the encouragement j0n She text me again today actually...saying hope I am ok, hope ____ went well, and hope I have a good xmas and new year... I had mixed feelings about this...one side of me thought, yeah she's thinking about me, she text me out the blue again just after one day...but the other side of me thought that she was closing things off by saying have a good xmas and new year But then after I briefly responded saying basically 'yeah you too' she starts a random convo up... confusing!
Author bitteorca Posted December 18, 2010 Author Posted December 18, 2010 Anyone got any thoughts? Today i'm having a bad day... You guys were right, it has made me think about it all again, just when i thought i was beginning to feel ok. I still think its good that she cares, but now im semi expecting her to contact me again, like expecting rather than being suprised. And i have to be honest, maybe its come into my head about reconciliation . Maybe im just having a bad day
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