youngskywalker Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Recently I texted an old flame. A week later we had a great talk on the phone. I doubt it's going to go any further than friends but I know we'll be talking many more times in the future. We've reconnected for sure. Now there is this other girl who I haven't talked to in a few months who I REALLY liked but things just fizzled. Question is: I'm sure I'm not the only one who trolls for old flames (STR's) so have you had better success with a phone call, text, or email? I want this one to really count because I had such a big crush on her. Any advice would be great. I lean more towards a phone call, leave a message if need be. But, if I end up talking to her do you think I should keep it short and just ask her out to 'catch up on things' or just small talk for awhile and let it be? (you know, plant the seed) Girls what do you think?
daphne Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Depends on why it fizzled. If she was really interested in you, I'd prefer a phone call and suggestion of just meeting up for a casual drink. If you're not sure, I don't know that I'd go that route. What's the backstory on crush girl?
Author youngskywalker Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 (edited) .What's the backstory on crush girl? Two dates. We spent a lot of time talking on the phone and texting over the timeframe of a month but she was always 'busy' to hook up. She showed a lot of interest at first but I started to get frustrated with not seeing her so I stopped contact and she never pursued. No breakup, no closure, nothing. All open ended. BTW, I did express that I liked her towards the end if that helps. I think she was interested at first (I really do) but somewhere along the line either she changed her mind about me or I got friend zoned. Edited December 16, 2010 by youngskywalker
daphne Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 If you didn't give her enough time to be sure she'd continuously flake out, she may have been disappointed that you dropped it altogether. It's your call. Maybe she'll be happy if you initiate contact and give it another chance. You won't know though if you don't call her.
AlektraClementine Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Meh, rekindling old romance has NEVER worked for me. Here's what my experience has taught me: 1- they're never as wonderful as you thought they were the first time around 2- past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior but to answer your question - none of the above - let them chase you.
Seamless74 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Back for more punishment eh??? good luck with that bro ..
ConflictedGuy27 Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Back for more punishment eh??? good luck with that bro .. agreed. meet new women, OP. let sunken ships stay sunk.
bonerman Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 Op, I was in this same situation and its going pretty good so far since we've started hanging out again. I started a thread on my situation at this point with her.
Author youngskywalker Posted December 17, 2010 Author Posted December 17, 2010 Op, I was in this same situation and its going pretty good so far since we've started hanging out again. I started a thread on my situation at this point with her. Happy to hear things worked out for you. I think it's possible to rekindle more than most want to admit. As long as there was something there to begin with. It's not often, but every now and then a girl comes along that I just can't get out of my mind. Maybe a second rejection is what I need lol. So to the above post, yeah I guess I am going back for more punishment. I say, at least once in life you'll find a sunken ship that has a treasure in it. Or crabs lmao.
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