wudat5756 Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 My ex and I recently broke off our serious 2.5 year relationship for a number of reasons. I was unemployed and we recently moved to a new city. As a result we knew absolutely nobody and couldn't enjoy traveling or a lot of the touristy activities due to my financial situation. We became passive, took each other for granted and I wasn't the man of the household that I needed to be. I was only 27 at the time and honestly I wasn't ready to be, just didn't want to lose this girl. I wasn't responsible enough and we were terrible at communication. We never fought or cheated. After 2-3 months of bickering about breaking up, me begging for her back, being jealous, needy, and a huge wuss, we recently stopped talking pretty much all together. She called me on my birthday and even took me out to dinner. She says she needs space and I'm willing to give it to her as I need to focus on my own life. I also like the idea of not being serious for once! She says she's not interested in a relationship with anyone new but we both have been dating others casually. Recently I mentioned to her that we should probably consider saying goodbye forever. She said she "wished I would chill out and go with the flow and see what happens" and "we could never say goodbye forever" She's willing to talk to me, just doesn't want to hang out because she's not ready "yet" She has also mentioned many times that she wants to be friends, she thinks we could be great friends. Duh, we were best friends for years. I'm down to take it ultra slow with no expectations. I'm confused and I think she is too. Is she just being careful with her feelings or stringing me along to be nice? Appreciate any advice on how to pursue this.
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