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How can I uncreepily 'start over' my approach on fb?


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Hi, so.. yeah we all know fb sucks sometimes.

 

But I found someone I can't let go away. Only I think she is one of those mega beautiful and probably is wary or cautious about everyone. She's from my old group of friends though, the one person I haven't actually talked but knew of. This was like.. 15 years ago.

 

 

She got all excited when I started posting to her, and I think she was the one getting too excited, but I wrote back something that sounded lackluster, and then I noticed she didn't reply to me after that, and posted something on her wall to make it look obvious she's trying to somehow 'reject me' back.

 

Dumb. I know. But.. the reason I still wanna try is, I think it's the 'facebook' problem, when two people who might normally click and get along in person, just don't online?? Cause we're both stupid and insecure and do stupid things out of stupid anxieties and what not.

 

 

But I feel, any second email will make me seem like a loser. What could I possibly say?

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playing games with a player will get you nowhere.

 

I haven't experience the "not getting along online but getting along in real life".

 

If there is physical attraction and you get along on an intellectual level then online will flourish.

Edited by youngskywalker
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Ok so, it has to be said! "Are we in highschool?" I have never in my life heard this get along in person and don't online. Most often people get along online and not in person. Unless your a creep online and a real nice guy in person?? Doesn't make a hell of a lot of sense!

Send her an email and ask how she is doing...Make small talk and go from there. Or apologize as you feel you may have offended her in some manner!

Best Wishes,

C

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Ok proved my point.. I guarantee if you saw me in person, we'd smile and be pleasant.

 

But youre whole 'are we in highschool' dumbs**t answer to a stranger is exactly what i mean.

 

=P

 

Oh by the way, I'm kidding. I just get annoyed with smart ass answers to a question not directed at you.

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Can you be more specific about what you said and what she wrote on her wall? What was the last thing that was said between you guys?

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Like the last poster, it's hard to gauge without knowing what was said.

 

My theory, however, is that she was showing a lot of interest, you came off as "lackluster" as you put it, and she felt perhaps rejected or slighted. It sounds like your'e both young. So instead of sucking it up and just backing off, she possibly was rejecting you back or you may have overanalyzed her post. That's where it's hard to gauge.

 

My only suggestion without knowing what was said is to not take her reaction personally and be friendly and pretend it didn't happen. That can smoothe things over. If she continues to be prickly, you may want to consider moving on but do so graciously. When people overreact, the best you can do to not burn bridges is to bow out and not show any reaction. Shows humility and perhaps how they should be reacting to situations where they don't know what's going on.

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