c2sellit Posted March 14, 2004 Posted March 14, 2004 Me and my g/f will be taking a break from one another...I know we will get back together but the thing I am worried about is how long will it be and what she will be doing while she is on it...I realize she will probably be going out w/ other guys but the thing I fear is if she will have any sexual activity w/ them...She tells me she isnt going to go out w/ other guys she just wants time to herself and do girl things....So it would be dumb for me to sit at home and worry while she is out you know????....She said the break would be around 2 months or less and what if she is sleeps w/ another guy or does something of that nature? We dated almost a year before we did it and a guy could be screwing my g/f w/o even trying???...This is what upsets me....I've accepted the fact we are taking a break but I am upset of what she might do on the break.
manolo Posted March 14, 2004 Posted March 14, 2004 Just don't worry about it. Now you will really find out if she loves you. If you let someone you love go and she doesn't come back to you, that means that it wasn't meant to be. If she does come back to you, that means that she really loves and it is meant to be. Every long term relationship has to do this at one point or another to she how much the other person cares about you. If she is gonna be screwing other guys during the break, then she has no more interest in you and she is looking for something new. So my advice to you is keep yourself busy in the mean time. Good luck.
Vivid_29 Posted March 14, 2004 Posted March 14, 2004 I swear up and down that you posted this yesterday, on a different thread.
Samson Posted March 14, 2004 Posted March 14, 2004 Every long term relationship has to do this at one point or another to she how much the other person cares about you. Sorry Mano, but this statement was just a little too global for me to pass. The test is as unnecessary as the results are misleading. If you gotta take "a break" from each other, then it should probably be a permanent one.
BklynGuy Posted March 14, 2004 Posted March 14, 2004 You already know what she's doing on the 'break.' It's not worth it. If she loves you, she'd be with you. Not breaking and messing around. Some people like to screw around and just have someone on the back burner they know will be around for them. That's what it sounds like to me. Beware!
End of my rope Posted March 15, 2004 Posted March 15, 2004 I have to agree with Samson, if ya'll have to take a break from one another then you probably shouldn't be together. Can she not "do girl things" and date you at the same time? I wouldn't buy that...
Author c2sellit Posted March 15, 2004 Author Posted March 15, 2004 We talked again tonight....She said that she just doesnt know if she wants to be in a serious relationship RIGHT NOW! But over the break she will decide that but she says the more I hound her the more I will push her away but she says she is coming back within the 8 week period most likely less she said...She says she feels smothered and I need to ease up a bit (I am a bit controlling). She says she is tired of it and wants us both to change....I think everything will be ok. She also insisted that she isnt going to see other people because that is not what she wants a break from she wants a break from GUYS period....So I dunno best I can do is let her go and see if she comes back...(I think she will) Also it isnt like im going to be stressed out being a sap...I will be busy w/ school/work/going to the gym like I do everyday and practicing my new found hobby golf So I should be pretty busy to keep things off my mind for that period of time (I seriously think it will only be a few weeks as she does to)....Also I already had 4 girls ask me to do things w/ them
Pookette Posted March 15, 2004 Posted March 15, 2004 Also I already had 4 girls ask me to do things w/ them I think if you are using these girls to make your ex jealous, you would be going about it the wrong way. She's going to be wondering the same thing you are--"Is he going to screw around..." If you want any chance of getting back with her, don't mess around. Period. If these girls are friends, great and fine, but hopefully not new "friends" that popped out of the woodwork, if you know what I mean.
Author c2sellit Posted March 15, 2004 Author Posted March 15, 2004 Originally posted by Pookette I think if you are using these girls to make your ex jealous, you would be going about it the wrong way. She's going to be wondering the same thing you are--"Is he going to screw around..." If you want any chance of getting back with her, don't mess around. Period. If these girls are friends, great and fine, but hopefully not new "friends" that popped out of the woodwork, if you know what I mean. Ohhh no it isnt anything like that....It would just be friends if I even did do anything w/ anyone but I highly doubt I will I have School Work Gym Golf That should keep me pretty busy while we take our break.....Im actually excited about this in a way I know it sounds bad but I think we will be better off once we get back together ....Another way things are looking for the better...She is talking about the future (not about our relationship) but our trips we had planned and such.
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