Ayla Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 So...over 1.5 years ago, I was on this site after breaking up with my ex - and was hurting so bad. I'm still here and extremely happy with my life. A bonus to that happiness is that I have finally met a guy who I am like....a lot! However I am scared and freaking out big time...and unfortunately so is he. Which is making me so confused and freaking out even more! He is a friend of my brothers, and they work together every day. For the sake of this thread - lets call him John. 10 months ago, Johns ex of 10 years cheated on him, and he found out. She is now engaged to this person. Obvioulsy he was terribly hurt, and is still not completely over the hurt. He also has a beautiful daughter. 3 weeks ago he told my brother that he liked me, but was lost and confused, but would never disrespect me. (I thought this was really nice). We were texting daily for a while there, and we saw each other a few times at my brothers. He would not stop looking at me. Anyway a week and a half ago - we both stayed the night at my brothers. We had a really nice weekend. He called me on the Monday "Just to say hi". However since the Tuesday he has changed. We not longer text as much, in previous conversations we talked about "fooling around" and getting to know each other and such. Since then he has stopped doing this, and if I happen to bring up one of those topics - he changes the topic or does not reply to the text. Last weekend he told me that he hopes to see me soon, and is also coming to my birthday party. Last night when we spoke - the same thing happened - I talked abouta particular topic and the phone call ended within 20 seconds of that. I texted him after letting him know that I am not holding him to his word. he did not reply until today - saying that he would be going ahead with it. He also posted something on my facebook. It seems to me that he is taking one step forward and 3 steps back. I put it down to he likes me, but keeps freaking himself out. But I am getting confused. I know what he has been through, and I know that he is still working things out, and that things will be slow. But I don;t get the sudden change. We have not had sex, just fooled around. I don't get it. What do you think?
creighton0123 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 If you care about him while knowing that he is still working through previous relationship issues, you'll stick around for a little while to see if he can get by them. Any update?
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