Squeakyclean Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 Well it all started on 1-16-09 i met the girl of my dream's the one I fell for, it did not take long for me to fall head over heal's for her, but... about two month's into our relationship she cheated for the first time, but I decided to give her the first... "second chance" a few months later i found out she cheated on me again, and yet again gave her a "second chance" then about 9 month's in the relationship she inform's me that she also cheated on me with two girl's and yet again the past repeated and i gave her another "second chance" about a year and three month's into the relationship the past was hiting me hard and i decided to go on a "break" where i ended up fooling around with another girl to desperately get the past out of my head but the break ended up with her dateing another guy after crying night's and night's because of what I did, and i knew i want her back. So I got her back and she was still hung up on the situation before thank's giveing this year she cheated on me again with the same girl i was "fooling around" with and i gave her yet again another "second chance". I thought that asking her to marry me would get rid of all our problems and fully commit our selves to eatchother so I asked her to marry me the day before thank's giveing and she said yes! but two day's ago she informed me that she has cheated on me with two more guys and two girl's since we have been engaged and promises from now on she will be SO faithful etc etc etc so I gave her another chance, but in the back of my mind I feel like i have no self esteem and something's wrong with me like crazy, everytime we got in major fight's i have thought about suicide and know that i would prolly do it if we ever broke up... but is staying with her wrong because im already hearing rumor's that she deny's. Please help litterally in dieing need -squeakyclean
Don_da_Ho Posted December 17, 2010 Posted December 17, 2010 Squeaky, you should not have even given her a "first" second chance. A cheater is a cheater. You really have to ask yourself why you would continue with such a person. As the saying goes "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me". I would suggest you stay away from her, get some counseling to fix yourself and move on. Unless of course you like being hurt and treated like a doormat.
ARISthess Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 If you don't want your feelings hurt, don't read my post Let me get this straight... in 19 DAYS (from thanksgiving till two days before your post when she told you) she's cheated on you with 2 guys and 2 girls??? Dude, I'm sorry to say this but she's a slut. She's cheated on you 4 times in less than a month, and a whole bunch of times before that. She has problems. Huge problems. And as long as she is with you, they will also be YOUR PROBLEMS. All relationships have problems. My girl and I broke up in a very bad way because of our problems. Things that bothered us about the other had driven us both to the edge. Upon getting back together I made us address some of our issues, and we agreed that no matter how much we would work on ourselves, we have to accept some things that we don't like about each other as given. Otherwise it wouldn't work because the truth is that PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE. You have to do some soul searching. Can you accept it deep down that your girl (or wife) is a slut? Some people don't mind sharing their partner, and if you fall into that category i'm not one to judge. There are many couples in healthy relationships that go to swinging parties, participate in orgies, and lots of other kinky stuff. However, most of us mind. I'm guessing you do too. That only leaves you with one choice, and thats to kick her to the curb. She's going to end up sleeping with your friends, and thats when its really going to hurt. I'm sorry I had to be so rough with you, but you gotta open your eyes and thats not going to happen if people tell you what you want to hear. Get rid of her. Yesterday! And don't look back not for one moment! Then log onto this site regularly and post your heart out till you feel you're ready to go back to the real world. It will take some time but it will be worth it!
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