bestrong Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 Her birthday passed and despite my urge to send her a happy birthday that 2 days (we live 14 hours apart) I DID NOT. I struggled but I kept telling myself that: 1. If I really wish her a happy birthday, I can say it in my heart. It doesn't have to reach her. 2. I am not going to be pathetic and use her birthday as a way to reconnect with her. 3. I respect her will for not contacting for a few years even though she and I both broke it a few times. Maybe it's ok to break it again BUT I need to heal. It's all about me now. So NC alll the way! So Everyone! Focus on your healing. It's holiday season and it's ok to feel weak and want to break NC but we must resist the temptation and do whatever that helps us move on!! Trust me, if she needs to find you, she will. We are just one click away from each other because of the internet.
kenmas Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 Hi, I am new to this forum and would also like to apply the NC rules but I have no idea where to find them and how to implement them. I recently broke up with my gf and it's been really a painful experience for me . I cannot sleep very well and can;t even eat anything. I want to put this behind my back and go through a healing process. So where do I find the NC rules. Please HELP!
alwayshoping Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 well done bestrong! Im really proud of you x
strangeways Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 Hi, I am new to this forum and would also like to apply the NC rules but I have no idea where to find them and how to implement them. I recently broke up with my gf and it's been really a painful experience for me . I cannot sleep very well and can;t even eat anything. I want to put this behind my back and go through a healing process. So where do I find the NC rules. Please HELP! Try this: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t81399/
strangeways Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 Her birthday passed and despite my urge to send her a happy birthday that 2 days (we live 14 hours apart) I DID NOT. I struggled but I kept telling myself that: 1. If I really wish her a happy birthday, I can say it in my heart. It doesn't have to reach her. 2. I am not going to be pathetic and use her birthday as a way to reconnect with her. 3. I respect her will for not contacting for a few years even though she and I both broke it a few times. Maybe it's ok to break it again BUT I need to heal. It's all about me now. So NC alll the way! So Everyone! Focus on your healing. It's holiday season and it's ok to feel weak and want to break NC but we must resist the temptation and do whatever that helps us move on!! Trust me, if she needs to find you, she will. We are just one click away from each other because of the internet. Well done!!!
Tressugar Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 I'm starting mine today of NC. Although he is the one who contacts me and then I respond to him by answering the phone. Now I'm going to let the VM answer for me.
Author bestrong Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 I'm starting mine today of NC. Although he is the one who contacts me and then I respond to him by answering the phone. Now I'm going to let the VM answer for me. Tressugar, make sure you delete the VM before listening to it. You don't want to go back to SQ1 again!!
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