JP2009 Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 I've known this girl for ten years. We've always had feelings for each other. Have even slept with one another throughout the ten years. But it seems that every time one person would want a relationship the other would not because they were interested in somebody else. Recently within the past couple months she became single and we started talking a lot. She came on a a trip with me for Halloween and we ended up sleeping together. I thought for sure this was going to be the time that we both decided to take it to the next step. So I kept asking her to hang out and she would keep saying she is busy. One night we ended up making plans for a movie at my house. She came over and ended up spending the night. I was a happy guy. Since then I haven't hung out with her. I keep hinting at wanting to hang out but she keeps saying she is busy. She tells me that she just needs to do her thing for awhile because she hasn't had that. Is there anything I can do about this to change her mind or what do you guys think? I really want to give this a shot because we are so alike and I think we'd be a good fit.
O'Malley Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 She tells me that she just needs to do her thing for awhile because she hasn't had that. You've both have had opportunities for 10 years, with others and with each other. She may harbor some feelings for you, but it doesn't sound as though she wants to become romantically involved. When someone is genuinely interested in a relationship, they don't give out 'busy' signals when they are free to pursue that interest. Something to take note of before you invest any more of your time or heart into this friendship.
Author JP2009 Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 @O'Malley I think this is where I'm at and it sucks. I know she is really busy with school and finals and work. I was just hoping that this was going to be the time for it to work out.
Author JP2009 Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Well it's official. She wants nothing more than just friends. I'm having no luck. I thought it was going to be a cake walk with her cause we've always had feelings for one another.
fishtaco Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Like I always say, it's all fun and games until the exclusivity talk. You can't change anyone's minds. Hence like BackUpOrGetStung said, give her a lot of space and let her figure it out. And I would add you go out and date other women while waiting. But sounds like it was a quick resolution, and you got sex, so it wasn't all that bad.
Author JP2009 Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 It wasn't all that bad, but I really wanted to give it a try because we are so similar I think would work out. But that was clearly just one sided.
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