vandelay Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 (edited) My girlfriend dumped me a few weeks ago. I think its probably for the best. I've initiated a lot of contact with her, acted like a fool, bugged the crap out of her, definitely made her resent me even more than she did before the breakup. But I'm getting my head straight now...I think. I stopped checking facebook a few days ago and that has done wonders for me. She is about to leave town for a holiday vacation, which is also great. Just removes the temptation or chance of randomly seeing her, at least for a couple of weeks. But......our lives are pretty tightly intertwined. Sure, thats normal, thats a relationship. But I know that I need to NOT see her, in order to feel better about myself. Well our kids go to school together, all of our friends are mutual, we live in a relatively small town and share the same interests, so we are bound to see each other a LOT. Just no avoiding it. I don't know how I'm gonna deal with this once the holidays are over and we are back into our overlapping routines. It sucks because I know she left me looking for excitement, and I know she will soon be hanging around with other dudes, in fact I know she is actively looking. How do I deal with it if I simply can't enforce no contact? What I need to be doing is making some new friends and seeing some old friends. I want to go out and do some fun stuff with people I like, but this town is too small and we will run into each other a LOT. I just don't know how this is gonna work out. This woman kept me on her backburner for so long and she treated me with such contempt. I love her to death for all the great things we did and felt with each other, but don't want to hurt myself anymore by running into her and dredging up unrealistic feelings. I'm tired of feeling "not good enough". And by the way, we are mid-30's, both established in the community, both divorced and with our own kids who have been like siblings for over 2 years, have been perceived as a great couple by everyone in town, and were together for almost 3 years. It wasn't like a young person dating thing, (not to diminish those experiences), but it has been something that involved a lot of other families and "mature" people. Edited December 14, 2010 by vandelay
blover Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Vandelay, Hang in there buddy. I have not yet managed to go off FB but LS seems to be helping a lot. I am 30 years old as well and this whole thing with my ex brought me down like my teenage years (again not to belittle anything). I think its simply got to do with thinking someone is your life partner and then that dream being broken. For me it was also the betrayal.
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