kimber Posted March 14, 2004 Posted March 14, 2004 Hi, I am having a really big problem right now, i was with this guy for 14 years, we have 2 healthy kids together and they both live with him as I also have a daughter that has alot of disablitys. Here's my problem, just recently I have stated to chat with his g/f on MSN, I found out that they were together a year before we split up. we were both asking questions back and forth to one another as I felt she was a kind lady however in the back of my mind I resented her for being with him when we were having so many problems I felt that she did not care and continued to go after him. Well we found out that he was lying ot both of us, he was telling her that we were just friends and also saying the same thing to me!!!!. What a ass for doing this to me after 14 years of his **** that I had to put up with. Now problem is that he is mad at me for allowing her this information, she was upset and went ot him and told him that she knew. I do not care anymore about that , well feeling a little hurt, but besides that they are happy together and I was alwys happy for him that he was happy. I do not know if i make any sence here but I am mad as heck that he could even turn this around and pull attitude towards me for his mistake!!! I called today not knowing what was wrong with him and he had attitude towards me, i asked her and she said well the 2 of you have to deal with this. i said i know but he will not tell me what is wrong so there for i have no clue, I would not care but my 2 kids do live with him and I have ot call there, sometimes he does answer the phone. thanks for the venting session. man i ma mad at him right now!!!!! oh ya he is going ot email me to tell me why he is mad! boy he will get the reply of his life! KImber
dreamyluv7 Posted March 14, 2004 Posted March 14, 2004 It seems like direct/ and barriers are blocking the your communication. Maybe try looking for professional help for this issue, he shouldn't be allowed to treat this way, espacially because your kids are involved in this issue. It seems to me that you need to be direct and have a quality conversation with your ex and his former girl to discuss manners, without the children present, to make sure that your opinion is heard. And so you can get the whole story from all parties involved. Go luck!
kimber Posted March 14, 2004 Posted March 14, 2004 it is not his former, they are together still and just bought a house. I am vry happy that he found that for himself. I know that we are/were better off as friends. it just hurts and bothers me that even though i did nothing wrong and he did that he can be mad at me, I said to him via email, be mad at you for you did the worng do not be mad at me. Ya i feel kinnda bad for my kids however they know nothing of this we will not tell them anything about it, Thank you Kimber
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