EyeAlone Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Posting here and complaining about my personality after every date with this guy seems to be a routine now. I've been dating a guy for 6ish weeks now and after every date I come home thinking that I really messed up. I am so socially awkward. I'm somewhat awkward around my friends but it's not too bad and they're accustomed to my quirks. But I'm even worse around guys that I like and it's no different with this guy. This last date was the worst. Not only did I say weird things but I also clammed up, which I haven't done during any of our dates. There were so many awkward silences that weren't there during previous dates with him. I was really getting the vibe that he was turned off with that. I just don't understand why I can't be "normal" like other girls. It seems like I'm worsening as I grow older and it's affecting my dating life. It makes me insecure because I know that I'm weird and awkward. He was supposed to call earlier this evening, but he never did. This is just reinforcing my insecurity. I don't know what to do...I'm feeling really down right now.
amagordos Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 It's funny i consider myself really awkward as well. I'm very clumsy and impulsive so I am always saying the wrong thing, but you know what, as long as you love yourself the way you are, someone else will find this traits endearing. If this guy doesn't call then he is not the one for you, because a guy that is really into a girl will not stop liking her for just one bad date. A guy that is really into you will like everything about you and no matter how hard you try to scare him away, you will fail because he is so smitten with you he won't care or notice. That's what I think, so i think you should not worry about who you are unless it really is a huge problem and then you can change it.
utterer of lies Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Well, I had a gf who was like you. She used to fall silent, or say random stuff because she didn't know what to say, and had lots of quirks. Once she ran away and locked herself into the toilet for 5 minutes. When she came back, I asked "Did you really have to go?" to which she said "No, I was scared". I thought all of this was cute, I liked those weird things about her. So...don't worry so much.
Author EyeAlone Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 That's what I think, so i think you should not worry about who you are unless it really is a huge problem and then you can change it.But how will I know if it's a huge problem or not? To me, it feels like a huge problem! We're going to hang out tonight. He didn't call but he emailed me this morning with plans regarding us meeting up at a place. This is highly unusual because 1) We never meet up. One of us picks the other up and we drive together. 2) He never emails. He always calls. Once again, my insecurities are being reinforced! I just want to cry...
phillyfan Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Dude seriously, he probly thinks u get freaked out on the phone or somethin and is tryin to communicate a way u like, hence email, or mayb he worried that u werent into him cause u were awkward n quiet on the last date so emailed to avoid phone rejection or somthin. Chill he emailed u to set a date thats cool, enjoy it.
Author EyeAlone Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 Dude seriously, he probly thinks u get freaked out on the phone or somethin and is tryin to communicate a way u like, hence email, or mayb he worried that u werent into him cause u were awkward n quiet on the last date so emailed to avoid phone rejection or somthin. Chill he emailed u to set a date thats cool, enjoy it.I've never freaked out when I was talking to him on the phone. We've talked on the phone many times and we've gone on multiple dates and I never became quiet or extremely awkward during any of those dates. It was just this last one. I also make it quite obvious that I'm into him. I'm really concerned that I left a bad impression on him.
Author EyeAlone Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 The way I see things is that if I perceive a guy to not be interested based on his actions, then I see it as lying to myself by being happy and confident and enjoying myself when on a date because it's useless if he already has his mind made up. Right now I'm convinced that he lost interest so what's the point?
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