Was this guy playing with me????

[solahalfbreed]

A guy that happened to like me 3 months ago but didnt say anything, askd me to spend a night with him 3 nights ago, it was perfect beyond words, we did it many times in one night and then in the morning early,but, he was not acting cold , like only sex, when he saw me,first thing he did was hug me tigh and kiss me, i wasnt expecting this, then we held hands as if we were lovers, we spent the night like that, as if we had been together for a long time.But there are something i want to understand about guys:

when i asked him what made him ask me to be with him, he said : '' cos i thought u were cool,fun,cute..and...dunno, i just wanted..'' but before we had sex, he was telling me how pretty i was.Now on the night we spent together he seemed sweet,he would stare at my face, while laying on top of me and staring, and said that he liked my freckles cos they were weird,and at one point he said that i was very beautiful and at another point he said that i was amazing, hed spend the night cuddling, caressing me while watching tv,kissing me, pulling me close n stuff,as if we were a real couple, and me? im infatuated wtith him now, but the next days, he wouldnt text me, i had to talk to him to make him reply to me,hence that he never mentioned that he wanted to do it again or anything, we text every now and then , he works the whole day almost,and he sees my textx when hes on lunch breaks,but, nothing special, i would say stuff to trigger some words from him, but nothing, 2 days after our night together he was upset cos i hadnt taken the post-day pill, but the way he talked to me was mean,after that he said he wasnt mad, but wanted me to understand something, i said that i dont want him to think i was not responsable, but he said that i left him no choice,after that we still text, but nothing an infatuated girl would enjoy,i dont understand, hes not that kind of guy, or maybe i dont know him, im scared i did something to make him think im not worth it, he was so great that night,like he really liked me, i dont get it...i mean, i would have known what would be his intentions from the start, but he didnt strike me a such a guy, this coldness may be bcos he works too much, and has his mind occupied with it and with a car that he want to buy and is seraching, i dunno, i know that men's passions are, cars,video games, certain tv shows, u know, what men like, what men are,but im getting worried, he doesnt text me unless i do, he hasnt asked me for my number, he did, before our date, but it was only to be able to communicate to settle the time and place, he is not a player, he is a girlfriend-bf, kind of guy,but he liked me and decided he wanted to spend a night with me, but weird thing is that, he doesnt have a car and he used to talk about when he buys it we would have sex in it, it means that he is not only thinking of a one night stand, which happened already, hes thinking of having sex with him in the future in a car is going it buy, so why is he being like this? its killing me, he has not planned going out again, or taking me to eat ice cream, that was one of the main subjects we talked about before our night, im worried:(

[Truly Lost]

I really hate to tell you this, but he isn't interested in dating you. He is communicating just enough with you to keep you around so he can get laid when he wants to. Guys will tell a girl ANYTHING if it means getting into her pants.

 

And just so you know....women don't have sex with jerks, they have sex with awesome men that they later find out are jerks. And even then women will still have sex with them.

 

There is nothing wrong with a one night stand as long as nothing emotional is expected from it. In very rare cases, a one night stand might turn into a relationship, but that's not very likely at all. I would not expect anything meaningful from this guy. And don't have sex with him again, because you will be right back on here writing about how he hurt you again.

 

Don't worry....I've had a few one night stands and made the mistake of having sex too soon with a guy I was dating a few times. I usually would wait a couple weeks and have even held off for three months. I've tried it all and guess what....I'm still single. It's a lot better to find out first if you are compatible, then sex should enter the picture. But it's so hard not to have sex....umph!