Fresh Breakup

[Defiler89]

Hello everyone , I just freshly regiserted to this forum cause I need to talk about certian thing that happend to me today .

 

So here goes the story .

 

So me and my now Ex gf were together for about 3 years ,we had our fair share of fights and jelaous moments ,but it really started falling apart 2 months ago .

So I failed math on my first college semester and I needed to repeat that year , she passed it and progressed to the next , so we didn't hang out so much cause she went to other classes .

Well she made there a lot of new friends , male and female .

So 3 weeks ago she decided she wants to go out with her female friends only , she told me they wanna have fun and its only a female night .

So the next morning I woke up and some1 posted some pics on facebook where she danced with a guy from college . Well I was jelaous like hell,we argued ,she told it was just an innocent dance and all....then last week she went out without me again, to the same club,and there was the same guy....I pressed her hard to tell me what is going in, why doesn't she wants him to remove from facebook and why she has him on msn,and he admited she likes him ,and that she kissed him that first night and last weekend too.

After she told me that, she said its over and she wants to try it with this guy.

 

Im devastated , I love her so damn much , I can't sleep , I'm browsing trough the forums and relate to some of the stories , tears come in ofc.

She texted me 3h ago , that she's sorry ,and she will think about it , but she really likes him and that she loves me,but not so much like she used to

[fiat500]

Unfortunately, this sh**t happens in college.

 

You have to cut off all contact to her right now. You can't be there while she's having fun with this new guy. SHe'll see you as less of a person.

 

Disappear. It sounds like she got tired of the relationship.

 

It's what happens when you're both in college. Do not talk to her or ask her for a chance. This kind of stuff drags you down and makes her look at you negatively.

[suddendumpee]

I have to agree 100% with Fiat. You should be relieved that your girl was upfront and honest with you instead of stringing you along indefinitely. She could have told you some "I need to be on my own" BS. Her honesty shows that she respect you and appreciates the relationship. Your best bet is complete and TOTAL NC for several months. You also need to make it clear that this is YOUR decision and she must respect it. This will take the power from her and out it back in your hands. If your goal is to get her back, this is the only way. You have a MAJOR advantage over this new dude and she is taking a huge risk. You still being there for her is just softening the transition to the new guy. Making her realize that she may have lost you will force her to cling to the new guy and prob. scare him off in no time. Disappear.

[Defiler89]

I agree with you guys , and I will do as you say , it will be hard , cause I know she will message me , I blocked her on facebook and that guy too , and deleted her from MSN .

I just feel so bad I can't even describe it