D-Lish Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 It's been so long since I've been in a healthy, good relationship. The best part about it is that, although it's new (only 6 weeks), things are progressing nicely. He's a normal, healthy guy- smart, sexy, stable, great sense of humour, good job, nice place to live. He treats me so well. Our connection is so electric, but at the same time, being around him makes me feel so secure and comfortable. I've never met someone that makes me laugh so much, and so hard. We find the same things funny. I am blown away that this happened to me- I never thought it would. Being around one another is EASY. I met him on POF. I was getting to that point where I was ready to cancel my profile because it had been so long since I had felt any interest in responding to a message. We took our profile's down about 2 1/2 weeks after we started to hang out. I was about to give up when I met him- and he'd only been on POF for a short time and was ready to give up because he'd had a couple of bad experiences with a couple of crazy girls. In the beginning, I had some reservations, but I know now it was mainly about my own insecurities/trust phobia. I had a brief inner struggle with panic over meeting someone that made me feel vulnerable- but I have just decided to go with the flow and just enjoy being happy. Some days I think we are moving too fast, but on the other hand, it just feels so natural to embrace the intensity of it all. I'm still scared. It's not easy being vulnerable again- I'm taking deep breaths. Everytime I see him my heart skips a beat. He has the most amazing smile. For anyone that has ever given up hope that after heart-break you can find your way back again- don't give up. I'm 41, I got divorced about 8 years ago and just lost my way for such a long time. I guess I am just proud of myself for opening up again. What walls I had built, I didn't think I'd ever encounter someone that would affect me so easily to deconstruct those barriers. But here I am, well on my way to feeling like I could fall in love with this wonderful person. After so much misery, it's really great to experience this kind of happiness. I was in a good place in my life when I met him- and I think that made all the difference. If I'd met him a year ago, I probably would have run away screaming or done something to sabotage things. Here, in the present, I just want to be a really great girlfriend. I hope someone will read this and find some hope that regardless of what you've been through in the past, good things will still await you in the future. Don't give up hope. Cheers.
JustJoe Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 This really pisses me off. You realize, D-Lish, that this completely f**ks my whole cougar fantasy, don't you? Ok, I'll be the bigger man and say congratulations!! (although I don't mean it)
Author D-Lish Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 Congratulations!!! Welcome to the "Gawd, that couple is so happy, they're annoying!" club. :bunny: Thanks LL! I've wanted to spit on that club for the past 8 years, now I want to join it:love: lol.
Author D-Lish Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 This really pisses me off. You realize, D-Lish, that this completely f**ks my whole cougar fantasy, don't you? Ok, I'll be the bigger man and say congratulations!! (although I don't mean it) Lol, well he is a younger man...
Wink Tobasco Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Darn! a catch of a lady is taken. He's lucky. Best wishes. does he wear mock turtle necks? How about a smoking jacket?
Author D-Lish Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 Darn! a catch of a lady is taken. He's lucky. Best wishes. does he wear mock turtle necks? How about a smoking jacket? He smokes a pipe?
JustJoe Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 What does he smoke IN the pipe? BTW, he IS out of HS, isn't he?
Woggle Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Good for you. It feels great letting those walls down. I also welcome you to the club. We should have matching t-shirts, hats, jackets and things like that.
Ariadne Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Blessings D-Lish! It sounds awesome and inspiring! Wishing you all the best!
Author D-Lish Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 What does he smoke IN the pipe? BTW, he IS out of HS, isn't he? Yes, by a smidgeon:rolleyes: Nah, he's 35, nothing I could get arrested for! Good for you. It feels great letting those walls down. I also welcome you to the club. We should have matching t-shirts, hats, jackets and things like that. We should! And it does feel really good to let the walls down, I guess it's about time for all of us! Blessings D-Lish! It sounds awesome and inspiring! Wishing you all the best! Thanks A. He's a catch, that's for sure.
hearttobreak Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Very happy to hear D-Lish. You deserve a good healthy relationship. I am happy for you. :)
OceanGirl Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Congrats D-lish. Your story really gives me hope. You are also such a lovely person that you deserve all the happiness in the world
xpaperxcutx Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 O-M-G! That is so Major! Here are some bunnies for your " relationship" :bunny:
Star Gazer Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Oh, D... I am SO incredibly happy for you!!
Feelin Frisky Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Congrats D-lish. Your story really gives me hope. You are also such a lovely person that you deserve all the happiness in the world This. :love:
Stung Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Hey, that's awesome, D. He sounds like a good guy, and it's nice to hear you so happy. My best wishes are with this relationship. It's a good club to be in .
JustJoe Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 35? I've asked you out about 473 times and I'm only 30!! 5 years makes a difference? I am SO hurt!!
Citizen Erased Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!! hmm....is he on your FB? I want to see.
OceanGirl Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!! hmm....is he on your FB? I want to see. I second this. Maybe a pic of him in your LS photo album?
pandagirl Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Yay! This makes me so happy! I'm glad you found someone, but more importantly, I'm so happy that you've been able to open yourself up again. THAT is the true triumph.
sumdude Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 That's awesome D! Yeah, it's nice to hear about. Seems like you and I have walked some similar paths so I'm hoping for that bolt out of the blue one day. You're one of my fave LS women.. if you lived in the DC area.. ..anyhow.. All the best and steady as she goes!
denise_xo Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 It's been so long since I've been in a healthy, good relationship. The best part about it is that, although it's new (only 6 weeks), things are progressing nicely. He's a normal, healthy guy- smart, sexy, stable, great sense of humour, good job, nice place to live. He treats me so well. Our connection is so electric, but at the same time, being around him makes me feel so secure and comfortable. I've never met someone that makes me laugh so much, and so hard. We find the same things funny. I am blown away that this happened to me- I never thought it would. Being around one another is EASY. I met him on POF. I was getting to that point where I was ready to cancel my profile because it had been so long since I had felt any interest in responding to a message. We took our profile's down about 2 1/2 weeks after we started to hang out. I was about to give up when I met him- and he'd only been on POF for a short time and was ready to give up because he'd had a couple of bad experiences with a couple of crazy girls. In the beginning, I had some reservations, but I know now it was mainly about my own insecurities/trust phobia. I had a brief inner struggle with panic over meeting someone that made me feel vulnerable- but I have just decided to go with the flow and just enjoy being happy. Some days I think we are moving too fast, but on the other hand, it just feels so natural to embrace the intensity of it all. I'm still scared. It's not easy being vulnerable again- I'm taking deep breaths. Everytime I see him my heart skips a beat. He has the most amazing smile. For anyone that has ever given up hope that after heart-break you can find your way back again- don't give up. I'm 41, I got divorced about 8 years ago and just lost my way for such a long time. I guess I am just proud of myself for opening up again. What walls I had built, I didn't think I'd ever encounter someone that would affect me so easily to deconstruct those barriers. But here I am, well on my way to feeling like I could fall in love with this wonderful person. After so much misery, it's really great to experience this kind of happiness. I was in a good place in my life when I met him- and I think that made all the difference. If I'd met him a year ago, I probably would have run away screaming or done something to sabotage things. Here, in the present, I just want to be a really great girlfriend. I hope someone will read this and find some hope that regardless of what you've been through in the past, good things will still await you in the future. Don't give up hope. Cheers. This must be the best thread on here atm. I'm happy for you
elaina Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Wow that's awesome!!! I'm so happy for ya'll!!!
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