nowwhatnow Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 So in sum, he dumped me 3 months ago, I went pretty much NC texted once or twice but have not spoke to him in almost 2 months. I am leaving the country for work and will not be back for almost a year, and he does not know. I entertained the idea of seeing him and telling him but can not bring myself to see him, I am just not ready. I wrote an letter telling him im going and that I really did love him, but I have to go for me. But I have not mailed it yet. I cant tell what I want out of this. I do not expect him to write me back, but for some reason I just really want to do it. Maybe it will force me to finally give up hope?
Dorian85 Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 I wouldn't meet him if I were you. It will only validate him. By you seeing him one last time before you leave for a year, your putting it in his head that you had to see him "just one more time" before you left. Now, this may or may not be true, but in his mind it will validate him. good luck
Author nowwhatnow Posted December 16, 2010 Author Posted December 16, 2010 I was not gonna see him, just send him a letter. Its like if I dont tell him than thats it. We will never talk again. But if I do tell him than maybe in the future he would be more inclined to let me know if he wanted a second chance?
bestrong Posted December 16, 2010 Posted December 16, 2010 I was not gonna see him, just send him a letter. Its like if I dont tell him than thats it. We will never talk again. It doesn't matter if you tell him or not. It's probably not the right time to let him know you really did love him. He ended it and he doesn't want to hear about this. If you really want to send him a letter, just let him know you will be out of the country for work for a year and take care. That's probably what I would do. But if I do tell him than maybe in the future he would be more inclined to let me know if he wanted a second chance? heee.... that's what YOU want, not him. If he wants a second chance, he would contact you even you didn't send him the letter...
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